Tired of Elitist? Just be patient
I only find that about 1 of every 5 player is an elitist and are usually never in for the long haul of the game. The best advice to give about this: Wait about 3-6 Months, They will drop like flies back to games like WoW or go to whatever new MMO comes out they think they can play to make themselves feel better about being better then the other 90% of the community at content.
Dont like it all you want its true thoguh
Most the time it has nothing to do with someone being an "elitist" but rather someone who wants to complete a fight and can not because others think they can bypass the grinding of gear and get carried by the ones who spent the time to get it. I admit it is very frustrating to do a fight with people who are not geared for the fight, I also admit to being part of that problem when i wanted to rush my relic weapon and then i realized it was not my parties fault but my own for not having the gear to complete the fight. I changed that I have been grinding and grinding and was able now to complete Garuda with ease and can run AK in my sleep. Everyone wants to throw around the word "elitist" when 9 times out of 10 its not elitism its frustration.