Originally Posted by
Manamaru
Also, if/when you're comfortable, you can place pet commands somewhere on one of your hotbars and assign a button to it if it naturally doesn't have a button set to it. With Eos/Selene, you can place them by the tank when the tank stops at a mob pull and quickly recall them to your side with heel. Since everyone would be near the mobs, you can focus on using whispering dawn and their embrace while you focus on adlo and whittling mobs down. If you get too far in distance from your fairy, they'll disappear and you'll have to re-summon them again. Similar with minibosses/bosses, you can place the fairy somewhere near the tank and have it do its thing while you move around and do your thing. Readjusting positions or calling it back with heel will sound very busy and like alot, but you'd be surprised how much it takes off worrying about something like is your fairy at a good location for whispering dawn, embrace, and etc. if you're sitting away from the tank.
The only ones you'd have to consider with tapping them with a physick every so often would be your ranged if they're used to hanging far in the back and they catch an arena wide AOE.
Outside of that, just keep catching and making sure your gear is up to snuff, and reassigning your abilities for ease of access and management. Best of luck to you in the future and hope the bad experiences don't deter you from trying again with different things.