Remove Gift Items

So I'm not exactly sure where to put this, but my question is this: is it possible to have a gift item removed from your account after the code has been redeemed? If so, how would I go about doing that? Someone who was close to me gifted me a fat cat mount some time ago, and I'm trying to cut them out of every aspect of my life, FFXIV life included. Same question for a wedding chocobo.

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Originally Posted by Mithkail

So I'm not exactly sure where to put this, but my question is this: is it possible to have a gift item removed from your account after the code has been redeemed? If so, how would I go about doing that? Someone who was close to me gifted me a fat cat mount some time ago, and I'm trying to cut them out of every aspect of my life, FFXIV life included. Same question for a wedding chocobo.

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I don't think there's much that can be done. Generally if it's been given as a gift it can't cause a chargeback to the person unless the gifter specifically asks for it(there's a policy on chargebacks if you want to take a look at that part as well). I've known people who want to cut out people from their lives, and merely remembering just from small things does not make it bad. At most, just accept the gift as an aesthetic and move on. You can forget about the person, sure, but just because you hate someone doesn't mean you have to cut out every single thing - you'll mostly regret such destructive actions later.

Delete char.


They can't remove items.

Ok, thanks for the quick responses. Good luck in your ventures in Eorzea.

There's probably nothing that can be done within the protocols of the game and GM teams, but I'm here to call out this invalidation of whatever you're working through:

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Originally Posted by HyperiusUltima

I've known people who want to cut out people from their lives, and merely remembering just from small things does not make it bad.

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You can't make blanket dismissals of people's emotional struggles like that. If they say something reminds them too much about someone, it's not your place to tell them the reminder is too small to hurt them or to dictate how much pain they are or are not allowed to feel.

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Originally Posted by Valkyrie_Lenneth

Delete char.

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Other option will be to start a new character on another data-centre rather than delete the current. Because...

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Originally Posted by HyperiusUltima

you'll mostly regret such destructive actions later.

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Do something to replace the memory of that person.

So for example, if that person gifted you a Fatcat mount, decide to buy it yourself. Donate the cost of the Fatcat mount to charity and consider that mount bought by yourself. You'll then connect that mount to the charity, maybe not instead of that person, but as well at least.

The wedding chocobo. Marry someone else in game.

Just gift another to some random person and convince yourself you bought it for yourself.

Or, like, just leave the past in the past and pull out fat cat if you ever feel like it. If you never feel like it, that's fine too.

If you can't look at a fat cat without getting upset, you're going to have a hard time playing at all. Maybe a break is in order.

Another easy thing, set up a favorite mounts roulette. Make sure no cats(fat or otherwise) and no married chocobos are on said list. Use this as your main mount selector. You no longer "have" the bad mounts, you just have pictures of them in a book somewhere. And if at some point in the future you feel differently, this is also easy to reverse.

I really don't want you to take the advice of "delete character" or possibly start a new one, because to me that's pretty much killing something you have already put time and effort into (not sure where you are at in game). I would consider Seraphor's advice or even Frizze's. Try to make new memories with someone, marry a good friend in game for a laugh so you both have the wedding chocobo.

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Originally Posted by Frizze

Another easy thing, set up a favorite mounts roulette. Make sure no cats(fat or otherwise) and no married chocobos are on said list. Use this as your main mount selector. You no longer "have" the bad mounts, you just have pictures of them in a book somewhere. And if at some point in the future you feel differently, this is also easy to reverse.

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Seeing as apparently having the mounts in question removed isn't possible, I'd definitely recommend above. I use favorite mounts roulette and barely if ever open the mount guide.

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Originally Posted by HyperiusUltima

I don't think there's much that can be done. Generally if it's been given as a gift it can't cause a chargeback to the person unless the gifter specifically asks for it(there's a policy on chargebacks if you want to take a look at that part as well). I've known people who want to cut out people from their lives, and merely remembering just from small things does not make it bad. At most, just accept the gift as an aesthetic and move on. You can forget about the person, sure, but just because you hate someone doesn't mean you have to cut out every single thing - you'll mostly regret such destructive actions later.

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Originally Posted by Rongway

There's probably nothing that can be done within the protocols of the game and GM teams, but I'm here to call out this invalidation of whatever you're working through:


You can't make blanket dismissals of people's emotional struggles like that. If they say something reminds them too much about someone, it's not your place to tell them the reminder is too small to hurt them or to dictate how much pain they are or are not allowed to feel.

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Saw left right and figured why not donkey- I mean middle.

More of a 'both' but there are obviously people who just bring you down no matter what. To be hyperbolic you could point at the 'friends' who bring you into hard drug and entire lack of responsibility circles. Best off to drop them like a giant sack of coal coblyns, unless you 'want' to be like them.

Yet I've also known people who as soon as they get upset start to dejunk belongings, go into an immature spiral that feeds itself, unfriend, and sort of place the person they're mad at into 'banishment' mode for them and anyone associating with them. I find this response to pain exceptionally annoying lol. A close family member used to unfriend myself if they were upset (and other family members). I made the situation relatively simple to them, if they unfriend me I'm not going to accept any refriend requests later on (I think I left it alone for many years before I said okay "don't do it again or it'll probably be longer or never"; although, to be clear it's not like ignored their calls or in contact (and I generally dislike managing my social pages anyways lol), just not going to jump through hoops because they want to throw a tantrum). I was not going to actively support the immature behavior, especially over things so silly.

Naturally I've absolutely no idea what you've gone through, so who knows.... Like I said "donkey". But certainly both points here have their own time and place. If you know you handle things poorly, but you want the relationship to continue, then it's best to set it aside as best you can rather than have it turn your actions into regrets later (or make other people regret being around you). Or alternatively the person has cause such devastation that along Rongway's lines 'you do you' lol, there are such situations where it's just like "hey whatever, you do what you have to do.. I'm sorry".

For a far lessor middle ground example myself I always got rid of /everything/ from an ex. Simply because I didn't want it to be a thing I carry around or make awkward about (and I didn't like a partner to do the same, so "do as you wish to be treated" lol). I didn't get rid of stuff out of rage, it was a calculated thought, one which I've zero regrets for.

Anyway, no idea what's going on - hope all is well. Just thought to say I think both parties made fair points given specific circumstances.

Basically everyone has given advice I would give about it (fave mount roulette is deffo a good option!) but I just wanted to say I hope you find something that works for you! It must be pretty rough hanging in there but here's to making better memories~