I pay for my bf's subscription but he won't listen to me. What should I do?

So I pay for my bf's subscription to get him into the game. He's new to MMOs so I decided to teach him the basics. He was really interested in tanking and started with Marauder. All was fine until he reached the first dungeon and couldn't hold aggro. At. All. So I told him to use Overpower but he doesn't want to do that and doesn't want to listen to me despite me clearing E5S on week 4. What should I do? Should I cancel his sub? I don't think I want to pay for his sub anymore after this.

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

So I pay for my bf's subscription to get him into the game. He's new to MMOs so I decided to teach him the basics. He was really interested in tanking and started with Marauder. All was fine until he reached the first dungeon and couldn't hold aggro. At. All. So I told him to use Overpower but he doesn't want to do that and doesn't want to listen to me despite me clearing E5S on week 4. What should I do? Should I cancel his sub? I don't think I want to pay for his sub anymore after this.

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Are you sure your boyfriend is not just another account made by you? Because at this point I wouldn't be surprised.

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Originally Posted by TyrTry

Are you sure your boyfriend is not just another account made by you? Because at this point I wouldn't be surprised.

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Good idea. At this point I am prepared to seize his account to teach him a lesson about not listening to an endgame raider as a sprout :/

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

Good idea. At this point I am prepared to seize his account to teach him a lesson about not listening to an endgame raider as a sprout :/

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I look forward to RTX3090. May he be the truest of titan. . . . cards.

Assert dominance

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

So I pay for my bf's subscription to get him into the game. He's new to MMOs so I decided to teach him the basics. He was really interested in tanking and started with Marauder. All was fine until he reached the first dungeon and couldn't hold aggro. At. All. So I told him to use Overpower but he doesn't want to do that and doesn't want to listen to me despite me clearing E5S on week 4. What should I do? Should I cancel his sub? I don't think I want to pay for his sub anymore after this.

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Maybe you're not oozing enough.

Have you tried to tell him "no"? Some people just need to be told "no".

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

So I pay for my bf's subscription to get him into the game. He's new to MMOs so I decided to teach him the basics. He was really interested in tanking and started with Marauder. All was fine until he reached the first dungeon and couldn't hold aggro. At. All. So I told him to use Overpower but he doesn't want to do that and doesn't want to listen to me despite me clearing E5S on week 4. What should I do? Should I cancel his sub? I don't think I want to pay for his sub anymore after this.

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Did y'all (you and yourself) have a lovers quarrel in the middle of Sastasha? Spill all the tea please. :D

I'm less than 100% sure this is actually an honest request for advice but I'll treat it as such.

The #1 important thing in a healthy relationship is honest, direct, clear, calm, and frequent communication. You need to use words and phrases that aren't "blaming" or "condemning" because the last thing you want is to turn calm into defensive and once one person is defensive it generally shuts down the entire discussion. I would suggest having the discussion at a neutral time, free from stress and distractions where you have plenty of time to be 1 on 1. It's also important to remember that in any discussion your partner's viewpoints is equally important to yours and you both need to take turns listening and speaking. Finding a solution that suits both of you equally is important and that solution isn't necessarily a compromise (often is) but can be something completely different than what either of you originally thought of.

I think it needs to be mostly educational from your end
1. His tank is low level and only has few skills for aggro. It will get better as he increases in level
2. He has lots of choices of classes/jobs but each class/job is really only meant to be played 1 way. You have a "rotation" or "priority list" (call it what you will) of abilities and there's no real variation. To be effective you need to use you skills properly, even when you don't like the skills.
3. There are other tank classes he can try.

Not every game is going to appeal to every person and the same is true for FF14. If he doesn't want to continue playing FF14, tell him you'll need to cancel the subscription to save money and then invest that time and money into something else you can do as a couple.

Heyy weren't you just against Rowena financially dominating gerolt!! Now you are finally dominating your boyfriend! Shame shame

Spank him, that's what I do and it works fine.

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

So I pay for my bf's subscription to get him into the game. He's new to MMOs so I decided to teach him the basics. He was really interested in tanking and started with Marauder. All was fine until he reached the first dungeon and couldn't hold aggro. At. All. So I told him to use Overpower but he doesn't want to do that and doesn't want to listen to me despite me clearing E5S on week 4. What should I do? Should I cancel his sub? I don't think I want to pay for his sub anymore after this.

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It just sounds like your abit too controlling and overbearing. Let them learn and play by themselves, there is no need to cancel their sub or whatever as that's just going way to far.

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Originally Posted by TyrTry

Are you sure your boyfriend is not just another account made by you? Because at this point I wouldn't be surprised.

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No, he goes to another Final Fantasy. You wouldn't know him.

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Originally Posted by EmmetOtter

I'm less than 100% sure this is actually an honest request for advice but I'll treat it as such.

The #1 important thing in a healthy relationship is honest, direct, clear, calm, and frequent communication. You need to use words and phrases that aren't "blaming" or "condemning" because the last thing you want is to turn calm into defensive and once one person is defensive it generally shuts down the entire discussion. I would suggest having the discussion at a neutral time, free from stress and distractions where you have plenty of time to be 1 on 1. It's also important to remember that in any discussion your partner's viewpoints is equally important to yours and you both need to take turns listening and speaking. Finding a solution that suits both of you equally is important and that solution isn't necessarily a compromise (often is) but can be something completely different than what either of you originally thought of.

I think it needs to be mostly educational from your end
1. His tank is low level and only has few skills for aggro. It will get better as he increases in level
2. He has lots of choices of classes/jobs but each class/job is really only meant to be played 1 way. You have a "rotation" or "priority list" (call it what you will) of abilities and there's no real variation. To be effective you need to use you skills properly, even when you don't like the skills.
3. There are other tank classes he can try.

Not every game is going to appeal to every person and the same is true for FF14. If he doesn't want to continue playing FF14, tell him you'll need to cancel the subscription to save money and then invest that time and money into something else you can do as a couple.

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I told him to use Overpower but he told me he knows how to tank and I told him I cleared E5S on week 4 and he told me he didn't care and now he doesn't talk to me and is packing his bags sigh people don't treat raiders with respect these days

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Originally Posted by znushu

It just sounds like your abit too controlling and overbearing. Let them learn and play by themselves, there is no need to cancel their sub or whatever as that's just going way to far.

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How is it controlling to tell him to use overpower?

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

How is it controlling to tell him to use overpower?

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You seem to be trying to overpower him

(get it?)

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Originally Posted by EmmetOtter

I'm less than 100% sure this is actually an honest request for advice but I'll treat it as such.

The #1 important thing in a healthy relationship is honest, direct, clear, calm, and frequent communication. You need to use words and phrases that aren't "blaming" or "condemning" because the last thing you want is to turn calm into defensive and once one person is defensive it generally shuts down the entire discussion. I would suggest having the discussion at a neutral time, free from stress and distractions where you have plenty of time to be 1 on 1. It's also important to remember that in any discussion your partner's viewpoints is equally important to yours and you both need to take turns listening and speaking. Finding a solution that suits both of you equally is important and that solution isn't necessarily a compromise (often is) but can be something completely different than what either of you originally thought of.

I think it needs to be mostly educational from your end
1. His tank is low level and only has few skills for aggro. It will get better as he increases in level
2. He has lots of choices of classes/jobs but each class/job is really only meant to be played 1 way. You have a "rotation" or "priority list" (call it what you will) of abilities and there's no real variation. To be effective you need to use you skills properly, even when you don't like the skills.
3. There are other tank classes he can try.

Not every game is going to appeal to every person and the same is true for FF14. If he doesn't want to continue playing FF14, tell him you'll need to cancel the subscription to save money and then invest that time and money into something else you can do as a couple.

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This guy is a known troll. Don't spend too much time on his posts.

Oh thats easy, dont let him get "it". He'll get better if he can't "smash". Maybe even lock up "it" until he does better. If you pay their sub, they should start acting like your sub. Make him wear his in-game outfit in IRL. You get the point.

Or you know, just be a better troll.

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Originally Posted by RTX3080

I told him to use Overpower but he told me he knows how to tank and I told him I cleared E5S on week 4 and he told me he didn't care and now he doesn't talk to me and is packing his bags sigh people don't treat raiders with respect these days

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Well in that case... you got me.
I gave you the benefit of the doubt that it was a legit ask and clearly its not. Hey, if you ever find yourself in a serious romantic relationship years down the road perhaps you will remember the advice given on communication. It will certainly benefit you. Especially the part about honesty.

Best o' luck.

Cook dinner, drink wine, watch TV shows. Or play chess. That's much better.

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Hi Mr. Troll! :D

Does your BF play as a catboi?

I think secretly he really wants to go play Genshin & be with his real S.O., Piamon instead of you. Confront him now.


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Originally Posted by Shibi

Does your BF play as a catboi?

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No if he did I would have unplugged his Internet

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Originally Posted by HeyMcFly

I think secretly he really wants to go play Genshin & be with his real S.O., Piamon instead of you. Confront him now.


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Sorry I don't understand weeb talk

If he “packs his bags” over a game, good riddance.

Did you try turning him Off, and then Back on again?
If that doesnt work, just yell at him that he doesnt pay your sub. (Im surprised no one gets the reference you're joking about)

Patriarchy during pride month? No thanks.