I’ve been trying to find a friend that still casually plays this game. Someone that does mind to roleplay and be a good friend; someone to talk to when I need a voice, to fight in dungeons and raids with, maybe even RP romantic scenes and even just goof around? Everywhere I go it feels lifeless. Maybe it’s the server I’m in or just me trying too hard. I’m even in a FC that’s active, but I feel like the runt of the group. Everyone’s out having fun, getting married, having deep conversations. I’m trying to be apart of it, but it feels like I’m squeezing in and causing a bad vibe. Like, no one tries to get to know me at all. Whether I be myself, do my own thing, or just wait patiently. . .it always seems to end the same; where I have nothing and no one.
Is it possible to still find a partner?
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10-10-2018, 08:40 AMSILVERxIs it possible to still find a partner?
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10-10-2018, 08:47 AMBerteaux_Braumegain
I have no experience with Midgardsormr as a server, but if you're finding the social scene wanting, it might be worth your while to transfer to a bigger server.
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10-10-2018, 08:56 AMJackHatchet
The best way to make friends is to start with a mutual interest. It certainly helps if you're a leader or pioneer.
Try making server-only groups in party-finder for content you enjoy, and then you can judge the people you get. If you click-push for a second date--err, social event. You can easily make friends by throwing together map parties, and even easier if you offer to pay for all of the maps. You'd be rolling with your own crew in no time!
The bottom line though, people generally only care for others based on what they can get in return. Some folks just want a partner to not feel alone, others need a partner in crime to run some duties. Others just want to empower their FC mates, and in turn--fuel their own sense of tribalism. The best relationships are those where both parties mutually benefit from each other. Goes with the popular saying 'the best way to have a friend--is to be a friend." -
10-10-2018, 08:57 AMAgrios
If you're into the RP scene you should definitely give Mateus a shot. It's very active from what I've seen. I've only been back a short time but it's a pretty great realm in my opinion.
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10-10-2018, 08:58 AMInkstainedGwyn
There's also a thread on the forums for that, and I think a discord; it's "for" Eternal Bond partners but most people straight up say whether they're looking for less or more, some say just friends, some want to test it out, some are looking for RP, some want game partners, etc. Might be a place to post, too. I've seen enough folks reach out to each other there.
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10-10-2018, 08:59 AMJackHatchet
Another quick and easy way to make friends on your server is to advertise in novice-network that you're tanking or healing roulettes and you're giving away free queues! Then socialize with your hostages!
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10-10-2018, 09:01 AMMagic-MalYou've been on the marriage thread for literal years. Sorry to be blunt but you are definitely trying too hard. Or something is wrong somewhere.Quote:
Originally Posted by SILVERx
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10-10-2018, 09:08 AMAgriosLOL I like that. That's a pretty funny way of looking at things.Quote:
Originally Posted by JackHatchet
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10-10-2018, 09:11 AMJackHatchet
I agree with the guy from Balmung who posted before, Mateus is a good server. Honestly, if RP is something you care about--I'd invest in a server transfer. I personally think relationships are easy. If you know yourself, and you know the person you're trying to get with--you'll find almost every interaction easy.
However, the biggest crux with humanity is that people often don't know themselves, and they're too lazy to learn others. Tack mental-illness ontop of that, and you got a recipe for disaster! -
10-10-2018, 09:21 AMSILVERx
I actually plan on moving to Mateus.
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10-10-2018, 09:22 AMSILVERxI kept running into people that only wanted the items, or changed their minds latersQuote:
Originally Posted by Magic-Mal
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10-10-2018, 10:59 AMMagic-MalThen instead of going on the marriage thread, just spend time with people. Don't chase, admit love for, or try to marry anyone. Just treat people like people and sooner or later you will get a friend that's closer to you than the others. Treat guys like people. Treat girls like people. Don't treat them like the next romance mate or you'll look desperate. The goal should never be marriage or romance but instead be friendship. Don't even worry about the Eternal Bond. It's no different than real marriage. In that it has no meaning other than being just a thing in the end.Quote:
Originally Posted by SILVERx
All the things you want in your OP, you don't even need marriage to have. -
10-10-2018, 11:32 AMRymm
To be perfectly blunt, desperation is not attractive to anyone except psychos looking for someone to manipulate. Trust me on that one. Focus on making yourself happy and fulfilled without needing to rely on another person, any other person, to do it for you. Actively looking for a romantic relationship is a good way to A) turn other people away because you "came on too strong" or similar and B) land yourself in a really bad one because some really awful people see that as an opportunity to control you.
Make yourself happy. Then you can go looking for someone to share that happiness with, rather than searching for someone to make you happy.