I need everyone's advice please

Hey all sorry to post this around but I need some serious advice.
Basically I'm being harassed by a player ingame and the GM's are doing nothing to stop it.
I tried blacklisting him and he ended up stalking me.
He kept updating his search info to trash talk me and obv he's been talking behind my back but nobody is listening (but it's still annoying).
This has been going on now for maybe 3 weeks? A month maybe more.
Why is this happening? Basically he wanted me to fall in love with him in-game and RL and I didn't - quite obviously.
This might sum things up: http://imgur.com/a/wVjWz <--- just removed this link due to info below from replies (thank you)
The GM's have a copy of that and yet they just say "we're investigating".
Any advice would be more than welcome :)

Continue to take screenshots and record the times the harassment is perpetrated and the names of the perpetrators.

Circumventing a blacklist is a big no-no, so hopefully the GMs will fix the problem sooner rather than later :\

It might not be a bad idea to share that link with the GMs as well as it compiles a lot of information into one place (though I might consider changing the title).

That is super creepy though.

GMs may seem like they're doing nothing, but the reality is they do not inform the reporting party about actions taken. Its likely they're taking action, though you'll never know what that action is.

You can assume the GMs are doing nothing if they reply with something like, 'This is not an issue we can resolve at this time,' or some other reply saying they can't do anything.

Naming and shaming is against forum ToS and will get you banned. I suggest you remove that link with the name before that happens and let the GMs deal with it. It's unfortunate that you're being harassed but that doesn't make this right and you need to let the GMs do their jobs.

Copying what I posted on your other thread here, cause I think this is the better place for it than the server specific forum.

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Originally Posted by Lelila38

Wow that's pretty harsh.
Sadly, the only thing you can do is report and black list him. The GMs take this kind of thing seriously, so they probably are really investigating it and will take action once they come to a conclusion.
Whatever you do, don't start talking back to him, don't insult him, he can use that against you. Also you should remove the name from the pictures, naming and shaming is a bannable offense and you don't want to get banned over a guy like this, right?
Sorry I couldn't give you more advice :(
But stay strong, don't give in to that kind of behaviour. I hope the GMs manage to sort this out for you soon.

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Some of those images look like they are from the FC screens. If they are part of your FC and the leaders aren't doing anything to help stop them...I might suggest GTFO that FC as it seems like it will just continue. If they aren't part of the FC you're in, unfortunately, the only thing I can think of to stop it, would be to transfer, or keep taking screen shots and reporting it.

Why do you look up his search info if he is harassing you? Honestly, all you can do is let em speak while the GMs look into it, I would keep the reports going but overall it seems they do it just because they get a rise out of you and see you react. Soon as you get a new message that sounds like the person in question, don't respond and blacklist as well as snap a pic and send it to the GMs. I'd wager they eventually get bored and quit or get punished.

This is something I fear at times. But sadly since they are investigating the only thing you may can do is just wait for them to handle the situation. If they keep trying to do something, as others have said get a screenshot and sent it straight to the GM's.

I've removed that link now as I don't fancy getting myself banned over him (thank you for informing me).
I'm just going to have to sit this out I guess and see what happens. Not alot seems to be done about it so far though.

Quick Edit: I tried blacklisting him but he stalked me. I've removed him off blacklist so I can see if there were any PM's due my way and if so then I log them and send them to the GM's. They asked me to blacklist him so I did but when I sent evidence of him harassing me outside my fc house (he's not in my fc) they still did nothing. I removed him off BL and now just let him do his own thing, I take logs, I send them to GM's. Either the GM's will get bored first or he will

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Originally Posted by AlphaFox

Why do you look up his search info if he is harassing you?

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I was wondering that too. Stop communication with them, report any harassment, ask anyone else to report anything inappropriate that was said and to ignore them. Unless they do something that crosses the line of the ToS, GMs likely won't intervene.

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Originally Posted by A1ch3mi57

I've removed that link now as I don't fancy getting myself banned over him (thank you for informing me).
I'm just going to have to sit this out I guess and see what happens. Not alot seems to be done about it so far though.

Quick Edit: I tried blacklisting him but he stalked me. I've removed him off blacklist so I can see if there were any PM's due my way and if so then I log them and send them to the GM's. They asked me to blacklist him so I did but when I sent evidence of him harassing me outside my fc house (he's not in my fc) they still did nothing. I removed him off BL and now just let him do his own thing, I take logs, I send them to GM's. Either the GM's will get bored first or he will

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You're welcome. Also, there is no PM "back log". If you have him on your blacklist then he won't be able to send you messages and he will get a notification starting that he is unable to message you. Please do take the GM's advice and keep him on the BL and let them handle it. Even by coming here and posting this you are giving him what he wants: your attention and concern. The best way to deal with something like this is to report it and move on.

I check his search infos because he's put links on there containing offensive material about me so I log them.
Also another reason I don't have him on black list is because I never removed him off my friend list (on a second re-add). I can monitor where he is so I can avoid him (let's face it I'd rather not see him). Player search only works if they're online and doesn't read true if they're in a dungeon. If he's offline then my FL will display it. In short: the more I know of his whereabouts the better I can avoid him

If you don't have him black listed then you are just keeping yourself open to his harassment far more because he knows you are getting the messages =/

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Originally Posted by A1ch3mi57

Also another reason I don't have him on black list is because I never removed him off my friend list (on a second re-add). I can monitor where he is so I can avoid him (let's face it I'd rather not see him). Player search only works if they're online and doesn't read true if they're in a dungeon. If he's offline then my FL will display it. In short: the more I know of his whereabouts the better I can avoid him

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That works both ways sadly. With him still being on your friend list he can track, and follow you. For your own sanity, and to stop him from being able to constantly harass you, PLEASE remove him right away.

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Originally Posted by Avatre

That works both ways sadly. With him still being on your friend list he can track, and follow you. For your own sanity, and to stop him from being able to constantly harass you, PLEASE remove him right away.

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I don't think the friend list works that way unfortunately. Accepting someone's friend invite adds you to their list and them to yours, removing them however does not affect their list.

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Originally Posted by A1ch3mi57

I check his search infos because he's put links on there containing offensive material about me so I log them.
Also another reason I don't have him on black list is because I never removed him off my friend list (on a second re-add). I can monitor where he is so I can avoid him (let's face it I'd rather not see him). Player search only works if they're online and doesn't read true if they're in a dungeon. If he's offline then my FL will display it. In short: the more I know of his whereabouts the better I can avoid him

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In my opinion, you're investing far too much of your time into this. I will reiterate... The more you pay attention to him, the more you check these things and report them, the more you "track" him to avoid him the more he knows that he is getting to you and thus fulfilling his goal. All of this is giving him exactly what he wants and it is ruining your time in the game. Also, since he's on your friends list (which he will now know thanks to you mentioning this all here should he look on the forums) he can send you things in the Mog Mail even while on your Blacklist.

Once more, as it is evident from your posts... He is winning. I can't force you to let this go, but having been through this myself several times with people, you're not doing yourself any favors by persisting in this manner.

If I remove him it doesn't remove me nor does blacklisting. I know he has me on his list so I'm powerless to change it. The only way I will ever be off his friendslist is if he does it himself. Also on another note, blacklisting doesn't come up with any errors messages saying the player didn't get the message. I believe if you have them on your FL but they blacklist you then the mooglemail system says an error has occured but that's it. Besides the point, I know I need to blacklist him :( *sigh*