Dungeon Anxiety!

As I am leveling in this game, I can't help but to have anxiety with dungeons. Now this might be because I also have social anxiety :) (I'm the quiet girl in the back lol)
I love the story and I love the mechanics of the dungeons so I was wondering if some of you also experience this? What do you do to cope?

Depending on your goals it can become Anxiety. I normally cope by doing other side quest, Diadem, crafting, and try to get xp by doing logs as well. I love this game and want to complete it as much as possible and I understand certain things can take time, specially older content, yet there is always a way. Their are other ways to level up and enjoy side stories as well. Take Palace of teh dead, have you made it passed floor 100? it has a nice hook to it. Try Beastman quest as well they also have story lines and great benefits. It would be nice if they did more to dungeons, I think I've memorized all mechanics actually do to consecutive relics, and can become a pain later on. Maybe mirror dungeons, or even optional hidden bosses could make them more appealing. Random void sent mobs that are a bit more difficult would be nice.

I understand you very well. I have massive anxiety myself, both online and in real life. I am okay with bringing myself up on a forum, but in the game, I always get stressed over being judged over my every little mistake. I mostly worry when I'm doing something for the first time when it's considered "old" content and people expect others to know it all and be perfect, but I found myself capable of doing things that are new. Seeing as I have very few friends, I never could get into raiding and other late game things such as EX primals, let alone savage raids.

I found solace in the Gold Saucer. I do a lot of chocobo racing and Triple Triad. I tend to place well in the tournaments on my server, as well. But some of the Triple Triad cards are sort of out of reach for me if they require raiding and such. :(

This is the first game that I have started to doubt myself as a player, tanking at low levels as PLD is enough to ruin anyone's confidence let alone someone with Anxiety. The best advice I can offer you is to join a FC and see if you can get a group run with them, this will help you bond a little more with the guild mates but also run at your own pace.

This community seems to be a massive split atm with some players that will be extremely helpful and then others that go out of their way to ruin your experience. Mostly because some of these players have been twiddling their thumbs for so long that dungeons are boring to them and they seem to forget that there are new players in the community seeing the content for the 1st time.

Hope you are able to find a small group of people that you can run with and enjoy this amazing game without the idiots ruining your fun

You sound exactly like me Holy-Chan, lol.
I also agree with you GDFletcher, I will find my group one day (soon hopefully) :)

I too have anxiety in new dungeons due to a bad experience early on. It makes all the difference when you can run with peeps that aren't salty and try to help instead. A good FC helps a bunch. I am on Mateus and my hubbie and I are on only most every night and weekends. We have a small FC with a good group of people that tend to run solo but will always help if needed. Hope you find a good group:)

I meant to add that if I see you on, I can send you a friend request if you want ..and vice versa!

If you are having anxiety in a game , not trying to be mean at all...but I don't think anyone online can help you fully, I suggest seeking professional help. My mom had REALLY bad anxiety and when working with a professional for a year she beat it. ^^ I am sure you could possibly find people to play with but it won't help cure it as much as a professional could.

Good luck :)

I see you joined a FC, congratz! LOCO is a great group of ppl.. Enjoy Mateus:D

I have tank anxiety in dungeons for sure...same reason, too. I tend to be much slower through content and people consider it "old". It's never as bad as I envision it, but the anxiety remains. The only "cure" has been running with good friends I trust who will guide or who I know are fine if I screw up occasionally. Otherwise, the only way to get through it is just to push through and do it, dealing with the near panic attack feelings the whole way.

I can totally relate to this. Being medicated for my anxiety disorder helps, but there's something about queuing up with strangers that takes everything to the next level for me. There is a lot of deep breathing involved when I'm thinking about jumping in the duty finder, and I'm still around 50% for "spaz out and don't do it".*

I'm always happy to team up with fellow Anxious Ones if it will make for a better experience, so definitely feel free to shoot me a friend request in game! I'm still a noob (max level is 27 at the moment), so I might not actually be helpful, but I also won't lose my mind if things suddenly go downhill. :)

*Anxiety is weird. Don't try to make sense of it.

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Originally Posted by HawkguyZero

I can totally relate to this. Being medicated for my anxiety disorder helps, but there's something about queuing up with strangers that takes everything to the next level for me. There is a lot of deep breathing involved when I'm thinking about jumping in the duty finder, and I'm still around 50% for "spaz out and don't do it".*

I'm always happy to team up with fellow Anxious Ones if it will make for a better experience, so definitely feel free to shoot me a friend request in game! I'm still a noob (max level is 27 at the moment), so I might not actually be helpful, but I also won't lose my mind if things suddenly go downhill. :)

*Anxiety is weird. Don't try to make sense of it.

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I swear, I would send you a friend request if we were on the same server. :(

Anxiety in a video game is one thing. Anxiety in real life is a whole different level. If it prevents you from leading a "normal" life, and eats at you constantly at every simple (in the perspective of the average person) task, that's really, really hard.

Well I have tankxiety some of the time - especially with DF where you never know who you are going to end up with. There are also dungeons I don't care for which doesn't help either.

That said I love to go with my FC as with them there is no pressure. I've also found PF to be useful as you can get a feel for who you are joining. "beginners welcome" is a much different group than "high level gear; multiple runs for loot".

Fellow dungeon anxiety sufferer here as well, I am very lucky that my partner IRL also plays and he runs dungeons with me, my problem is I think everyone has such high expectations on this game that any little mistake or death I have, I place such high expectations on myself as well, even if it's a dungeon I have never ran before, mostly I run it just fine though but I do know exactly how you feel.

I have major social anxiety but I'm actually very confident in game and I lead a groups to clears. Weird. I can't imagine being virtually shy.

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I swear, I would send you a friend request if we were on the same server. :(

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My approach to MMOs tends to be "ALL THE ALTS!", so if I find myself on your server I'll look you up!