How do you all deal with stalkers?

I used to "go all out", name shame and all, until they realised too many ppl knew how abusive and creepy they where, that always "helped" me, but I am facing a different issue where I don't want to do this, so I ask you all, what would you do? Or do you have any experiences with stalkers where I can learn from you?

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Originally Posted by caioferreira

I used to "go all out", name shame and all, until they realised too many ppl knew how abusive and creepy they where, that always "helped" me, but I am facing a different issue where I don't want to do this, so I ask you all, what would you do? Or do you have any experiences with stalkers where I can learn from you?

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Sadly this game encourages stalking, lodestone link stays the same when you name change / world change, you also stay in people's friend lists after doing a world / dc change, so basically if someone has you in their friend list and want to track you, they have the red carpet for it.

Dont think there is much you can do really except to try and stay away from them in any way possible

I would say in the first instance to report, if it happens again, I would suggest considering a name change, and then if it persists report once again which would give more weight to the fact of stalking and would make it easier for action to be taken.

With some fortune, some of the people will get sanctioned accordingly for it, they'll get the 'memo' and they'll back off and probably spread the word that despite their lack of a moral compass, they can still get sanctioned for it.

I would equally say in the future to be cautious of those whom you add, especially in a gaming community. Unfortunately, whilst you can delete people from your friend list, this is not a two-way job - I believe you would still remain on their list which can make it more difficult to get away from it. - Unfortunately, the powers that be somehow don't see why this system is an obvious issue.

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Originally Posted by Kaurhz

I would say in the first instance to report, if it happens again, I would suggest considering a name change, and then if it persists report once again which would give more weight to the fact of stalking and would make it easier for action to be taken.

With some fortune, some of the people will get sanctioned accordingly for it, they'll get the 'memo' and they'll back off and probably spread the word that despite their lack of a moral compass, they can still get sanctioned for it.

I would equally say in the future to be cautious of those whom you add, especially in a gaming community. Unfortunately, whilst you can delete people from your friend list, this is not a two-way job - I believe you would still remain on their list which can make it more difficult to get away from it. - Unfortunately, the powers that be somehow don't see why this system is an obvious issue.

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Name change doesnt work, lodestone link doesnt change, and if they have you in their friend list they will see your new name

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Originally Posted by Stormpeaks

Name change doesnt work, lodestone link doesnt change, and if they have you in their friend list they will see your new name

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The point is to really take the intent from it, if people go that far then it's very difficult for any GM to ignore, even when they're feeling kinder than usual. Granted, they shouldn't need to in the first place. Because frankly stalking behavior should lead to a 1-way ticket to a banned boulevard, pending review.

stalk them back

Report, block, ignore. Do as if they don’t exist. Answering, stalking them, engaging in any way with them only encourages them to continue. They want reactions and if they don’t get any, they’ll eventually lose interest.

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Originally Posted by drtasteyummy

stalk them back

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Stalk them back, dox them, send them false pizza orders, annoy the living hell out of them till they leave you alone.

Why do I feel like this was some old episode idea from a cartoon I watched?

Oh yeah this is from Recess.

They really should move away from the static Lodestone links that always will lead people who know it back to your character :p It would really help people who have issues with things like these

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Originally Posted by Toutatis

Report, block, ignore. Do as if they don’t exist. Answering, stalking them, engaging in any way with them only encourages them to continue. They want reactions and if they don’t get any, they’ll eventually lose interest.

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This, any sort of engagement is a win for them. If they're a part of a group of friends and your friends won't help shut the behavior down, separate completely from the whole group. Don't underestimate crazies.