Exactly, I can't tell anymore! Times we live in, right? This forum, man - opens up the eyes xDQuote:
Originally Posted by Jaywalker
Hun, I studied Human Biology at Manchester University. We have a two-year course unit module in psychology. What 'authority' do you have?Quote:
Originally Posted by brasteir
I've fallen in love...with an NPC
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08-09-2019, 01:24 AMGwenorai
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08-09-2019, 01:24 AMJaywalkerLol no worries, got a lesbian buddy who has a solid collection of husbandos in her own right. Meant 'into' in the sense of "this is the target of your attention" more than strictly "who you wanna bang". Going nitty gritty on semantics just seemed overcomplicated haha. ;PQuote:
Originally Posted by Rivxkobe
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08-09-2019, 01:28 AMSandoria
I mean, I had a huge crush on Ryan Gosling in The Notebook and his character never even interacted with me. You do you Boo boo.
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08-09-2019, 01:28 AMbrasteirOh so then you know when you say "proven" you actually you know, provide proof, maybe from the papers you've helped publish? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Gwenorai
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08-09-2019, 01:34 AMGwenoraiOh, I'm sorry you mean I have to write them? Pity, just have some articles that already exist. You can trounce my argument if you happen to have also written a paper however, I think that's fair.Quote:
Originally Posted by brasteir
Just for you; I'll go there. Link for source.
For further reading Here; it's a paid PDF - if you have a university you may be able to access it.
Revalent material:- Baumeister R., Wotman S., Stillwell A. Unrequited love: On heartbreak, anger, guilt, scriptlessness, and humiliation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 1993;64:377–394
As I know reading huge walls of text are a bit 'iffy' here.
7.Baumeister, Wotman, and Stillwell (1993) reported that 93% of males and females have been previously rejected by an object of passionate love and that 95% rejected someone who had such feelings for them. Romantic rejection has several negative mental health consequences: it sometimes results in homicide and suicide (e.g., Meloy and Fisher 2005; Wilson and Daly 1992) and regularly leads to clinically diagnosable depression (Mearns 1991).
Obviously, in most situations, the romance isn't real and is a scripted scenario between yourself and the NPC. Beyond that, it's fantasy. A fictional character can't return the love beyond its scripting unless you intervene and continue to take on the character yourself, at that point you're romancing your own imagination. In the end the NPC can't return the love or 'feels' the same way about you outside of the setting. You're not the WoL. Thus the love is unrequited - which is on par with 'rejection', as it means that the person rejecting you is not reacquainting that affection. Not being able to get that affection you may crave from the person you love is seen everywhere, today. All you have to do is look up, situations where there's an emotionally absent spouse or parents who do not give their children emotion. Finally, obsessions are obviously dangerous in regards to fiction; see below example. Case 1: Leonid Hmelev and the case of Taylor Gamboa Arronis. I'm not saying that OP is doing this, or will end up like this - but it has happened and is a cause of concern if a person falls truly in love with someone who doesn't exist. Like those guys who are in love with anime characters, or my little pony chars.
Have a read. I'm done here.
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08-09-2019, 01:39 AMAlleluia
I have no problem with fictional crushes. (Have had many myself; will have many more before I die, I'm sure.) OP seems to be taking it beyond that, though, with the phrasing being used. Though, that could just be a result of this somehow being the first time they've experienced this phenomena, so... yeah.
I mean, remember he's not real, OP. But enjoy his story. Maybe do consider reading/writing fanfiction about it or something, as an outlet. And of course, enjoy any opportunities we get to interact with him further in-game! :) -
08-09-2019, 01:39 AMbrasteirUmm these things are only tangentially related. Unrequited love is not the same as loving a fictional character, it could be an OUTCOME of loving a fictional character but that's not a given and not proven in any of your sources. Mic drop indeed.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gwenorai
Actually if you could find studies about men who own and live with real dolls, I think that would be way more comparable to loving a fictional character. Thanks hon! -
08-09-2019, 01:41 AMRivxkobeI know. Just wanted to poke fun. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Jaywalker
They are indeed ladies. I, however, am not... one. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Alleluia
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08-09-2019, 01:44 AMJaywalkerXD All good lol, I'm sure they're top tier waifus all!Quote:
Originally Posted by Rivxkobe
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08-09-2019, 01:46 AMAlleluiaI knew you were jokingly saying it. Sorry, I didn't mean to come off as overly serious either, if I did. Also, didn't see Jaywalker had responded before me, rendering my response redundant. >_>Quote:
Originally Posted by Rivxkobe