Originally Posted by
LittleImp
I almost never address anyone directly when it comes to mistakes, and put a big emphasis on positive reinforcement where it\\\\\\'s due.
I have two strategies for pointing out mistakes. I try as hard as possible to never address anyone directly, because I don\\\\\\'t think putting someone on the spot and turning the party against them is constructive in most cases. I either:
A.) Say something like "It looks like someone popped an orb there, moving like this can help avoid it"
or
B.) Ask "Did anyone see what went wrong there?" even if I know exactly what went wrong. Getting people to explain and work through what went wrong is usually constructive, and it gives the person an opportunity to admit fault, which is a very important quality for someone looking to become a competent raider.
Sometimes I even just disband parties outright because I feel bad about singling out someone and kicking them.
Although most of my experiences are overwhelmingly positive, I run into the occasional unstable person that doesn\\\\\\'t take things well under any circumstances. I\\\\\\'ve had a guy sit outside my FC house for two days straight after I asked him to leave a clear party for a fight he openly admitted he didn\\\\\\'t actually know. I\\\\\\'ve been stalked around by an ex-static mate and put on blast in various raiding discords because I kicked him from the static after he literally went berserk and started screaming in a voice call over a minor mistake someone else made, all caught on VOD.
It\\\\\\'s extremely disheartening when people imply these types of things are entirely my fault, and that I should have somehow treated genuinely malicious people like this \\\\\\'better\\\\\\' than I already did. Do you genuinely think people like this are above lodging petty reports against people they don\\\\\\'t like? Some of these new policies can potentially lend legitimacy to some of the claims these people might make out of spite, which is why it\\\\\\'s concerning.