Basically same, gay male who plays a gay male character and wants to be referred to as a male in communication with my character and myself
I don't think people would have cared if it started out that way. But given they've spent 10 years personalizing the pronouns to your character, to switch to they/them now would make them look cheap and lazy.
Go outside, touch grace.
Sounds like a waste of time and coding for something you can be referred as by the rest of the players, incurring absolutely no cost whatsoever.
Just do it like bob kelso and call all the male character Dave and females debby or slagathor if they want that.
I lean toward the latter since their RP profile comes up in Google and it was last edited back in 2019 and the OC has lesbian as their sexuality. Looking at the lodestone the character doesn't do much outside of RP by the looks of it. However, they only started posting again during the VA debacle after two years of inactivity.