How do you guys deal with online drama?

I think there are always 2 sides of stories. OP might be the douche one, but we'll never know because we are only hearing his story.

I forward it to the writers of Days of Our Lives.

How do I deal with online drama?

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He called me bad names! ... I liked him! /sob

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Originally Posted by Ventus

How do you guys deal with online drama?[/B]

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simple, earplugs. try not to get to caught up in it, its just a game.

Laugh at the people who take a game seriously.

Drop the linkshell. It's a game that's meant to be enjoyed. Not a job. Find a linkshell that doesn't ask for your soul. There's plenty of them out there.

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Originally Posted by Ventus

Recently I seem to have had a stroke of bad luck with falling into situations where, one way or another, myself and another friend of mine online get in a misunderstanding that leads to a heated conversation:

For example:

1) I was talking to a friend of mine about doing ifrit and I ask him "do you know the fight pretty well?" and he responds "what does 'pretty fight' mean?" and I explain that's not what I said and try to walk him through it. I joked around and said stuff like "are you on drugs lol? that's not what I said"

Well...somehow he got incredibly pissed at me, thought I was being annoying, and started cussing me out...=( (At this point I was wondering if there was a language barrier I wasn't aware of...had plenty of conversations just fine with him before).

2) In a LS (only 8 people in it) and the leader says "hey come do hamlet we are all here cmon!" and I explained I wasn't doing that atm. Well she starts getting mad saying it's a strict event LS and I apologize for inconvenience and retire the LS saying it's not what I meant to sign up for.

I /tell the LS leader again apologizing about the misunderstanding and she proceeds to act snide and cuss at me about being a flake out and such. Her frustration is understandable but she continued to be bitter after I apologized multiple times and remained calm...



For those of you who have read this far I just got to ask: how do you deal with this stuff?

I had NO intentions of pissing these people off and I really enjoyed talking to them and being friends, but through some stupid situation they've socially exiled me.

I feel like a complete ass but at the same time I don't feel like I did something to deserve these sort of conflicts..

TlDr; I've been getting in conflicts with people lately and I don't want to lose them as friends...what do I do?

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Ack! That's terribly ; ;.

If you do not be mean, if you do not use bad language, and then they start attacking and using bad language at you, then they are not nice nor are they your friend (unless they are one of those people that 'communicate' that way but don't actually mean hostility).

I do not normally run into this, but if I sense the conversation will go that way, I simply say I'm sorry (it's okey to say sorry even if its not your fault), and then end the conversation politely. I.e:
I'm sorry, I did not know it would be like this. It would not work for me. This is really something I can not do. I hope you guys good luck and you do well! Please take care.

At worst I usually get a sad 'Ok'. If it's anything more heated than that, I would ignore it. And if it persists, I would /blist for a while.

(Mean people only continue to be mean if they know you are listening to them)

You were in the wrong OP, you should apologize.

Such people exist in RL and MMO ...

Try to "Take It Easy"

You don't really have to lose friends ^-^ just avoid them, when you see them, /hello

I tell people up front "I don't do drama, I have zero tollerance and if you try to incorporate me into any of it we will part ways." Most people I hang with are anti drama like myself so I have made great RL friends online especially from FFXI.

Those who are drama whores usually give a remark like "Whatever man!" or something and go about their business never to be seen again unless they really need something but I cut them off from the gravy train. :P


As for your examples in the OP in the first situation joking or not they could have taken offense to your joke even though you said it in jest. Could have been having a bad day and misread what you said and then you slung a joke insult at them.

Your second example your LS leader was a prime example of a Drama Whore and those people I avoid in every game, MMO or not.