So...have do you make friends?

I can relate to the OP on this. I've been trying to recruit for my FC since I started back playing, but every time I see a new player, or a non-committed high level player, I just dilly-dally until it's too late and never make contact.

It actually seems like you're looking for your in-game BFF. This can be a little tougher than just finding someone to idle chit-chat with. If that's the case, it's something that just kind of happens on its own, but it also doesn't happen hiding in a hole. I met mine in my current FC, and it most certainly didn't happen overnight. Our interests in the game are near identical and we do many activities together, but I never would have met her if I didn't join an FC, and actively participate in it.

I can relate to your difficulty putting yourself out there. I'm not really anti-social, but I am an introvert and was taught to not speak unless spoken to. It makes it difficult to meet anyone, and it gives peeps the impression that I am very quite. Once I start talking though, good luck getting me to stop :p I do have a couple of suggestions that might be helpful:

The aetherytes in the starting cities constantly have people shouting for FC recruits. If one sounds interesting, you should try sending a /tell to the shouter.

You can post on your server's forum that you are seeking an FC. You can mention what your interests in the game are, and what type of FC you're looking for and see what responses you get.

If you do have an FC, or when you get into one, PARTICIPATE! Say hello when you log in, and good bye when you log off. Contribute to the conversations happening within, and take up the offers to run content. Many FC mates place FC related activity priority over everything else. If there is content you would like to run, be sure to vocalize that. In a healthy FC, they will help you without it being any kind of burden to them. Plus, when you run content with an FC, it is SO much more laid back.

Last is emote, emote, emote! By this, I don't mean spam /laugh by the nearest marketboard. I mean express yourself through emotes even when soloing. What this does is makes you seem much more fun and approachable.

As an example, one time I met someone when this player and I both arrived late to a FATE. Both of us tried to burn down the boss in time, but just came up short, and it started running away. I emoted /frustrated and started running after it, weapon drawn and in /say said, "COME BACK HERE WEAKLING! COWAAAAARRD!" This player started laughing, and after a little bit of chat, we grouped up to a do a few FATEs. We don't actively group, but when we see each other around, we always wave, and exchange a few words if not too busy.

I would say the best way to make some friends is , invite people to do runs with you and help them out too. Hangout at the fc house sometime ? and keep notice if someones lvling around you and do dungeons, it really makes a difference when you actually try hanging out lol :P

I also have this problem. I've asked in various places just to join an active social LS and I haven't gotten a single response. I love the game, but it's very lonely for me.

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Originally Posted by Saziel

I also have this problem. I've asked in various places just to join an active social LS and I haven't gotten a single response. I love the game, but it's very lonely for me.

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I'm in the same situation rn. I love my small fc but they never want to do content besides dungeons. The two friends I had left for destiny 2 and only play once a week, lol. So I'm pretty lonely too atm.

I don't have a lot of friends either, but the ones I have have been fun to play with and talk to.

I do like talking to people, but I never really start a conversation, too shy for that. However, I do always tell people on the forum to feel free and add me to their friends list, always up for doing something in the game or just some talking. Due to RL I don't play a whole lot, but I do try to log on most days for a little bit anyway.

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Originally Posted by DDkiki

I have my old macro
/Poke motion
/Emote pokes <t>'s nose. Boop!

But people just ignoring it most of the time.

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This sounds adorable! If I had someone do that to me I'd giggle and do an emote back. ^^,

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Originally Posted by DDkiki

I know that one person I remember from my old server are on omega too and actually wanted to contact them but I afraid he don't remember and I don't think he ever liked me to begin with...

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Try it! You might be surprised. You are already not talking with him, so if he ignores you then nothing will have changed. You have nothing to lose and something to potentially gain if he replies. Just send a tell something like, "Hi! Remember me? How you been?" or something. :3

In answer to your how do you make friends question. I started the game at launch very alone. I had one rl friend playing but we rarely played the same times. I joined an FC, just said hello when I logged in and stuff. To start I felt a bit of an outsider, they would all be talking and I'd just be reading it. Eventually I began to ask if anyone wanted to do dungeon runs, and we'd talk while in those, I started to chat in fc chat more. Ended up really good friends with a small group in the fc. It eventually folded to drama, but I'm still friends with that group even though we are in different fcs now, we have a ls. Try looking for a social fc, say hello when you first join and maybe add sorry if I am quiet, I am a bit shy to start with. If people know you struggle to make friends then they might make more of an effort to pull you out of your shell.

Good luck.

Try being in luisoix, it's rare for people to even say hello in dungeon.

I find it easier to make friends outside of FFXIV to such an extent I have quite a few firend on a number of server outside of my main home of hyperion.

the way I made these firends is services like Discord, instagram and tumblr

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Originally Posted by MrGiostar

Try being in luisoix, it's rare for people to even say hello in dungeon.

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Dungeons are per data center, so it's the same for Omega actually.

I'm on Omega, and my fc is super inactive lately so I would love to have someone to do some stuff with :D If you're having difficulties talking to someone uninvited, here is an invite! Poke me when you see me online! Just send me a tell saying "poke" if you don't know what to say.

Other than that, I met a lot of people on my old server by hanging around Limsa and butting into conversations in /say ^^ if it's say, it's public, and nobody can stop anyone from enriching the conversation with bad jokes.