Complimenting someone is not flirting!

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Originally Posted by Altijacek

So much drama ended up happening irl because of stupid issues like this >_> lost someone extremely important to me that I dated for years. That said, I flirt with dudes in my FC all the time for fun lol :P P.S. I'm a straight dude lol, it's just funny to play around with FC mates, like saying "hey stud," or whatever lol.

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Ugh... people should really calm down and stop taking everything so seriously. What a way to live life constantly being upset over little insignificant things. When you're old and on your death bed you look back and realize that all you did in life was be upset over things and never managed to influence any change but did succeed in pushing away people who cared a lot about you.

Depressing rant I know but I just hate to see things like that happen.

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Originally Posted by Eye_Gore

I hate to say it, and I'll apologize upfront if you take this the wrong way. If someone got all up in arms over a video game chat and left you because of that, that person has some severe insecurities and you're better off.

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I'm just going to say, that's not exactly what happened. It was extremely complicated, lol. Just slightly related to this. I guess the lesson I'm trying to say is please don't mistake somebody being nice for somebody flirting with you.

Hee hee...

The subtitles of what that guy said is probably: "My wife is just here beside me, please, don't get me in troubles...!"

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Originally Posted by Virevolte

Hee hee...

The subtitles of what that guy said is probably: "My wife is just here beside me, please, don't get me in troubles...!"

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Most likely the case.

People are very easily offended and tend to over-react to everything these days. It's no wonder people want to be anti-social.

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Originally Posted by Altijacek

I'm just going to say, that's not exactly what happened. It was extremely complicated, lol. Just slightly related to this. I guess the lesson I'm trying to say is please don't mistake somebody being nice for somebody flirting with you.

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Ahhhhh, that reminds me of my teen years. Can't tell you how many guys thought I liked them simply because I was nice :P

Maybe no one else was nice to them?

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Originally Posted by Niqote

My husband flirts with other men in game all the time.

It's hilarious.

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'Tis one of the perks of a pretty avatar and Internet anonymity...or so I have heard.

:)

Seriously though, as I have posted in another topic before, players with pretty female avatars are apparently seen (by those who do not know the real player beneath the avatar) as flirting and available if they are;

• Friendly
• helpful
• playful
• generous
• concerned for others
• humorous
• polite
• chatty
• or at all outgoing

I have at one point or another been told by different players that one or more of the above qualities is why they thought that behind the beautiful cat-girl with long blue hair, red eyes and a tendency to wear short skirts, I really was a beautiful young woman with long hair, pretty eyes and a tendency to wear short skirts...

My wife thinks it's hilarious when it happens, especially as I in no way hide the fact that I'm a dude.

On the flip side, we had a good friend in an online game who suddenly became very cold and distant to my wife when his wife started to play the game also. Hilariously, he also reacted to me in that manner whenever his wife was online or even in the room with him while he played. Of course I was playing the previous incarnation of Kosmos at the time, so perhaps she could not see past the avatar. I suspect that is a problem that a lot of people share, they wrongly imagine who/what the player is based on their avatar, and extrapolate based on that.

I guess the moral is that if you spent hours and hours perfecting your pretty/beautiful avatar, you need to be quiet, surly, abrupt, arrogant, overly serious, unhelpful and very apparently not care for the needs of others, otherwise people will think you are a female player looking to hook up.

Uttterly ridiculous what people think about others based on their avatar's appearance, isn't it?

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Originally Posted by Elusana_Celah

Oh boy I had some guy in a duty finder once start like hugging me and talking about how cute I look and asking me what server I'm on and how he's going to make a character on my server...

But I'm married to someone in game who I love very much so I just linked my eternity ring in chat as a reply and he immediately stopped talking to me LOL.

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Oh, that's smart, I'll have to remember to try that.

I'm a girl who plays a male character. I'm married in real life, and in game. My real-life husband doesn't play. My in-game husband threatens to carve up anyone who so much as casts a sideways glance at me. RL Husband finds this hilarious.

I do admt I get sorta suspicious when someone gives a compliment. D: I totally would worry about flirting, or in the case of performance, sarcasm. Was in a trial last night and the other healer told me I was doing a good job.. Made me immediately wonder what I screwed up. Not used to people specifically singling someone out in a nice way, I guess.

I flirt with all my friends! lo/ However, I'm afraid of complimenting others on DF, even though sometimes I do it, since I get genuinely impressed with either other's look or skill... dun care if it's a girl or a boy. The often think I'm hitting on them. :( No, just no. No. Why would I do that? Why are people assuming that in a first place?!

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Originally Posted by Virevolte

Hee hee...
The subtitles of what that guy said is probably: "My wife is just here beside me, please, don't get me in troubles...!"

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It's so sad that even married people have to act this way. I mean, you are living with that person, you're loving that person... why would you even get mad about it? If there's a real trust issue, they should talk about it and work it out together... sorry, I'm not used to (and I can't stand) the "OMG, you are TALKING!!! to another guy/girl, you are obviously going to cheat on me!!!" bs. Assuming that this was the case.