So, if the one who lotted need realized that the greeder actually would have better use for the item, he shouldn't be able to leave the instance to let the other guy get it instead.
It wouldn't be possible with what you describe.
And... As for the OP...
Considering you were spiritbonding and the healer actually sticked around to wait for you to get back after every disconnect, expecting the healer to let you get an item for glamour only is a little much.
Since you went with FC and only pugged the healer, the healer had no chance of actually kicking you and the only way he/she could have left was with penalty.
If there is any harassment in this case, it's the OP that stands for it.
