For a Dear, Dear Certain Someone

This guy is the reason no one knows my real name. >.>

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Originally Posted by HiirNoivl

This guy is the reason no one knows my real name. >.>

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I agree one hundred percent!
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I don't see his other character banned. He can rant all he wants, but...

I've been put through enough crap to not deal with this at the moment. That's why I'm just finally going to end it somehow. I just hope that if he can't be banned, he'll be shunned by the entire community.

I do feel bad for him, but I do not enjoy this. This isn't flattery, this is just really, really messed up.

I am going to find that rant though and document that while I'm at it.

I tried to play nice. I pitied him at first, but now I can't even do that. I may take you up on that email bit though Dav. Really into psychology and therapy, but haven't been exposed much to domestic... anything.

His mind is long gone, that's the worst part. I can't say or do anything, and because he's long gone, he's just going to keep coming after me. The ten months prove that point. Luckily I never gave him my real name, or where I lived, or anything that insane.

Don't think he understood any of what I said anyway, even when I attempted to be civil at first.

Also, I'm sure he doesn't know what we women can be capable of *evil face*

This is the problem with situations like this: you may have thought responding him was innocent enough, but that actually keeps weirdos like him going. It's a way to acknowledge they exist in your world.

The more responses they get, the more empowered they feel. It's not too late though: Just ignore ignore ignore. Delete or report where necessary, but after this topic, don't even acknowledge his existence any longer.

Even without all this stalking on you, he did a good job of ruining his own reputation by posting his horrible videos. So he really doesn't need help in that dept. either XD

Oh no no, that's the thing, I responded to him at the beginning, then waited for a good few months but he kept up posting in my same blog topic. I only spoke again when he ditched Bastok (as of last month in fact) because I was in a bad mood. Bad mistake, but I don't think I need to speak at this rate for him to continue to pester me. I actually have been feeling loads better since this topic so if anything, this empowers ME.

I really hope he leaves you, and, well, everyone else alone. Even when somethibg isn't about him, he keeps harassing people until it's all about him. When someone confronted him basically saying how he needed medical help, about how he kept bashing on the community member, he kept saying how we don't understand that he is an entertainer, and blablbla love. After realizing how he made an ass out of himself infront of many, he tried to brush it off by saying he was being in character. Oh, and hr threatened to destroy the person's public reputation saying he has dirt on her.

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Originally Posted by HiirNoivl

This guy is the reason no one knows my real name. >.>

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I thought it was Craig.

If it's me he is talking about, uh, I have nothing. I didn't tell him any secrets, hehehe.

I'm glad someone pointed out that he is going way out of his boundaries.

He told me of a personal issue which I am NICE enough not to express, but I'm pretty sure it led to partial insanity. I wish I was kidding. I'm not bashing on him, but it doesn't mean he needs to take his past out on me. I have a good idea as to where this whole love bit stands from. I feel bad for the member though. Wait do you have the link to it or was it taken down Crimen?

I got yo back Talia, gonna have to make a character on Hyperion So I can crush the stalker and do some stalking of my own on the side! :3

Also everything that Dav posted I agree with, these things can start off as annoyances but if not handled and the person gets too "involved" with or without your help things could get even worse. Do everything you can to document every interaction attempt he makes and build yourself a case. Have your friends do so as well. Submit it all to SE and if the situation grows even more out of hand more extreme methods are recommended.

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Originally Posted by Leira_Raine

If it's me he is talking about, uh, I have nothing. I didn't tell him any secrets, hehehe.

I'm glad someone pointed out that he is going way out of his boundaries.

He told me of a personal issue which I am NICE enough not to express, but I'm pretty sure it led to partial insanity. I wish I was kidding. I'm not bashing on him, but it doesn't mean he needs to take his past out on me. I have a good idea as to where this whole love bit stands from. I feel bad for the member though. Wait do you have the link to it or was it taken down Crimen?

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Nope, the threat was towards another person who also said thy didn't know them so they don't have any real threat. Although since it was a google+ community post, which I can't link you to since, ya know, links don't exist, I can quote some things written. He did mention you at the very start though.

Nvm found out I can link, but I don't know if people would appreciate it since they use their real name, etc which could backfire at some point.

No I mean what he said. I just wanna know Bastok's response. That can't really backfire, can it? Or at least the mere mention of me. I just want the evidence! D:

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Originally Posted by Leira_Raine

No I mean what he said. I just wanna know Bastok's response. That can't really backfire, can it? Or at least the mere mention of me. I just want the evidence! D:

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I'm not really sure why you're looking for a response, as it can be seen as goading him. Would be better if you just let it all die on its own

I don't think he can answer here either <_< pretty sure he's banned

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The comment above his is literally what the topic was about and he somehow turns it into his own issue. The conversation goes reaaaallly downhill after that, but I'm sure this is enough. He at a point started asling how could people possibly not know about him, and boasted about how his videos have so many views.

Edit: As people have said ._. I too will just shut up about it. I was just baffled that he decided to make it public and make himself seem like the victim.

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Originally Posted by Vilhem

I'm not really sure why you're looking for a response, as it can be seen as goading him. Would be better if you just let it all die on its own

I don't think he can answer here either <_< pretty sure he's banned

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Vil makes a very good point.

If the person commenting on your blog is indeed the same one who has been harassing you, and if that character hasn't also been banned yet he can still probably see everything you are posting here.

I wouldn't go out of your way to find things he is saying to other people, and I certainly wouldn't do so quite this openly, it just validates his obsession. He doesn't care about the nature of the attention, he is still validated by it.

The absolute best thing you can do is ignore him. Document any time he tries to contact you, but don't respond, and tell your friends not to respond either.

It's also probably a pretty good idea to let this thread die. This type of venting is probably better done in a more private venue.

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Originally Posted by Keith_Dragoon

I got yo back Talia, gonna have to make a character on Hyperion So I can crush the stalker and do some stalking of my own on the side! :3

Also everything that Dav posted I agree with, these things can start off as annoyances but if not handled and the person gets too "involved" with or without your help things could get even worse. Do everything you can to document every interaction attempt he makes and build yourself a case. Have your friends do so as well. Submit it all to SE and if the situation grows even more out of hand more extreme methods are recommended.

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I know you won't want to hear this, but hurting an abuser will likely just cause him or her to run off and hurt people even more. If he has the blame problem I mentioned, then he will likely go and hurt someone else even worse just because it will make him feel better. The answer is to get abusers banned, not be a vigilante. Even if he deserves it, we need to build the case and let the mods handle it. If they don't respond, a restraining order from a US Judge can be applied to social networks.

This situation reminds me of the movie "cape fear"

also the movie "finding nemo"

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through op, but generally cutting some one out of your life is the only way to deal with things like this. Its a bit harsh, but you'll both be happier for it. Just deny every avenue he has to contact you. Have your friends /blist him, ignore him when given the option and never respond. Even posting this on the forums is enough to goad him on because you're giving him an indication that hes bothering you. Eventually, he'll grow bored and find some other poor soul to torment.

Just picture him as a bad memory, and soon enough he'll become one. Eventually you'll forget he ever existed.

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Originally Posted by Dav

I know you won't want to hear this, but hurting an abuser will likely just cause him or her to run off and hurt people even more. If he has the blame problem I mentioned, then he will likely go and hurt someone else even worse just because it will make him feel better. The answer is to get abusers banned, not be a vigilante. Even if he deserves it, we need to build the case and let the mods handle it. If they don't respond, a restraining order from a US Judge can be applied to social networks.

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You took my comment WAY too seriously >.>;

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Originally Posted by Req

I thought it was Craig.

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It might as well be!

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Originally Posted by Dav

If they don't respond, a restraining order from a US Judge can be applied to social networks.

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I was going to mention this as well. Seems I'm not the only person who knows a few things about this type of protection. Nice work providing the info Dav. :)

Hi Leira_Raine =)

As someone who has dealt with similar things I just wanted to see if I could offer you some helpful advice ^_^

The best thing to do is ignore it. I know it can be hard and the crazy things people do bother us but that is what they truly want. I've learned to ignore this kind of stuff by constantly being so busy that I simply no longer have the time to think about it!

If all else fails getting a restraining order is fairly easy. I wish you the best of luck ^^

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Originally Posted by Keith_Dragoon

You took my comment WAY too seriously >.>;

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:)

I did take it too seriously, but its important info, especially in the case of physical abusers. A lot of times an abused woman's father and brothers will go beat up the boyfriend. This usually results in disaster. It makes the woman feel sorry for the abuser. The abuser then will then try to be "reformed" for awhile. Unfortunately without an understanding that love is not control.....the abuser will eventually start hitting again. It may be weeks or months but you better believe that the abuser has the time he was beat up in the back of his (or her!) head.

Of course we aren't dealing with a physical abuse case here (thank goodness), but the principles involved are the same. Vigilantism leads to tragedy. So I would recommend to everyone that you don't attack this person in game.

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Originally Posted by Dav

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I did take it too seriously, but its important info, especially in the case of physical abusers. A lot of times an abused woman's father and brothers will go beat up the boyfriend. This usually results in disaster. It makes the woman feel sorry for the abuser. The abuser then will then try to be "reformed" for awhile. Unfortunately without an understanding that love is not control.....the abuser will eventually start hitting again. It may be weeks or months but you better believe that the abuser has the time he was beat up in the back of his (or her!) head.

Of course we aren't dealing with a physical abuse case here (thank goodness), but the principles involved are the same. Vigilantism leads to tragedy. So I would recommend to everyone that you don't attack this person in game.

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Again you took my comment WAY too seriously. Talia is a friend of mine aswell a decent ammount of people on Hyperion. I am moving servers so it makes since I create a character on that server to keep in touch(stalk) with them. As for Bastok, I wish to have no interactions with him neither good or bad so he'd be added to my blist before I even finish the opening cutscenes.

I get no enjoyment from causing others pain, emotional or physical. My only source of enjoyment is fun and laughter among friends and helping others no matter what the issue may be. I don't need a run down of the consequences of harming others because I have experienced a lot of that stuff first hand IRL so I am more than aware of them. >.>;

I went to your blogs and have seen the horrid things that this certain someone is posting

The only thing you can do is collect every piece of evidence you can show to the mods and report everything from him (your probably doing that already)

That said best of luck getting this stalker gone