I don't find players friendly.

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Originally Posted by Risvertasashi

Joining a group (and this applies to any game or similar) of friends that already know each other... occasionally, it can be great. If they are very welcoming. Most aren't, they just want to talk to people they already know.

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Yep, Risvertasashi is right, and it can be discouraging.

I think the key is finding a Free Company that is newbie and new person friendly. Many FCs say that they are, but they are also kind of structured around progression, and that itself tends to form clumps of players who play within that small group and don't interact as much with the rest of the company. It's not that people are necessarily unfriendly, but the game encourages players to work with static groups for end-game progression and this does lead to cliquish behaviors, but it's not typically out of malicious intent. If end-game progression is your cup of tea, then you may find it easier to integrate into a FC once you are able to participate in that type of content.

On the other hand if end-game progression is not the thing that lights your candles, or perhaps lights a few candles in the back - so to speak, you may be better served by smaller free companies that are not focused on end-game progression. There are some FCs that describe themselves as social, but sometimes it's more like a club 18-30 kind of thing. So you still may want to shop around to find the right fit for yourself. My Free Company is not end-game progression focused. We have player that participate in that content in statics of their choosing outside the FC, but the FC is focused on simply enjoying our life in Eorzea. I think that for brand new players who are not focused on end-game progression, a Free Company that focuses on playing the game for the pleasure of playing together with others.

Last thing is that this is a social environment, so communication is key. Unfortunately that means that it shares many things with real life, so it can be hard to get started with a group of friends. On the other hand, because this is an online environment people are more free to be who they want to be, so some people who in the real world are a bit shy and introverted, may be more extroverted and talkative in-game. That makes it a bit easier to integrate, and become a part of the community. Of course to an extent you'll get back what you put in as well.

On the darker side of things, because this is an online environment with little fear of consequence, and no real player reputation system in place, there is a small but vocal group of players who simply don't care if they walk all over you, ignore you, insult you or simply use you because there is very little consequence for their action. I call this anonymous group of Internet fiends the "Eye of Moron"... Avoid the Eye's gaze. ;)

Seriously though, ask around, talk to FC members of a few FCs you've looked at, and try to find a friendly, relaxed group who play for fun.

Commuinity is better then most mmos i play

but i don't know what happens end game since im not up to it, like maybe people are more elitists, i don't interact with people much but so far i have had no problem with other players

like during a dungeon people often complain about i should attack with or how i use it. But here i do what i normally do and people haven't complained yet.

Well there is one person, he randomly invited me to a group, it was late and was about to log so i decline and told him im going to return quests and leave... some how he didn't get the message and started following me around town.

Was kind of creepy. I was playing a female btw

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Originally Posted by Jedite1000

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Well there is one person, he randomly invited me to a group, it was late and was about to log so i decline and told him im going to return quests and leave... some how he didn't get the message and started following me around town.

Was kind of creepy. I was playing a female btw

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There is some elitism at end-game, but I don't think it's any more than is normal for MMORPGs. The community can be very, very good, when it wants to be.

I've had an experience almost exactly like the one you gave. It is a little odd, some people seem to expect that you'll immediately accept their invitation and that you might possibly look like your avatar...lol. That kind of thing used to happen a lot in PlayStation Home, it got so bad that players with female avatars turned off all local communication and blocked invitations. It seems it's just one of those slightly weird things that happens online when you can play whichever gender you want. Some people just can't handle that the characters on screen are not representative of the player(s).

If it becomes a problem you can of course report a player who stalks or otherwise harasses you.

You seem to be having fun in spite of that experience, which is a good thing.

Is it possible to request to join / leave an FC from The Lodestone website? Or can I only do it in game?

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Originally Posted by DarkChild

Is it possible to request to join / leave an FC from The Lodestone website? Or can I only do it in game?

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It can only be done in-game.

To join, you can ask an officer of the FC to invite you (or someone who has invite authority - that's typically officers). Or you can bring up the FC information window by interacting with any FC member or with the FC estate (if they have an estate). That gives you the option to request joining, though then you have to wait until an officer sees and approves the request.

Leaving an FC is done through the FC window, available whenever you're a member of one. (If you have a personal room in the FC's house, you have to clear it out first.)

Looks like OP may have already deleted their character. I hope not. anyways I'll say this for anyone else in the OP's situation;

Don't lose hope, please. There are a lot of jerks around, but there's just as many good, decent people too, it's just that rudeness tends to speak louder than kindness, unfortunately. I would be MORE than happy to play with you, and any new player that wants a patient person to show them the ropes, I mean that, no strings attached. You wouldn't have to join my FC or pay for my time or anything. Just walk up to me, and say hi. Please. Do not give up. Do not let the terrible people in this community win.

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Originally Posted by Ilitsa

Just walk up to me, and say hi. Please. Do not give up. Do not let the terrible people in this community win.

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Never give up, never surrender!

ya try playing wow.

First post and new player here. IRL I am a longtime FF veteran (old enough to start at 1 as a kid, and I did) and MMORPG newbie- first one I've played and on PS4. I've been playing for 30 days and found most people to be friendly. Using the Duty Finder I find the tough crowds. I am a tank and I've never felt more like a newbie playing another game in my life. I'm a level 48 PLD and I've received 4 player commendations which I suppose isn't so bad after my first month. There are some immature comments made but overall I know they want to win and so I listen and learn to try and make that happen.

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Originally Posted by MoneyVSOP

I'm a level 48 PLD and I've received 4 player commendations which I suppose isn't so bad after my first month. There are some immature comments made but overall I know they want to win and so I listen and learn to try and make that happen.

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Unfortunately in Duty Finder people tend to assumethatthe tank knows the entire dungeon and all boss fights, which unfotunately is a lot to shoulder, especiallyon PLD which can have issues maintaining hate on groups because of sub-par AoE threat generation. Make sure your weapon is as good as you can muster, and remember that flash is your friend and enjoys frequent use. Ignore the harsh voices, they will be harsh no matter what you do.