Originally Posted by
EmmetOtter
I'm less than 100% sure this is actually an honest request for advice but I'll treat it as such.
The #1 important thing in a healthy relationship is honest, direct, clear, calm, and frequent communication. You need to use words and phrases that aren't "blaming" or "condemning" because the last thing you want is to turn calm into defensive and once one person is defensive it generally shuts down the entire discussion. I would suggest having the discussion at a neutral time, free from stress and distractions where you have plenty of time to be 1 on 1. It's also important to remember that in any discussion your partner's viewpoints is equally important to yours and you both need to take turns listening and speaking. Finding a solution that suits both of you equally is important and that solution isn't necessarily a compromise (often is) but can be something completely different than what either of you originally thought of.
I think it needs to be mostly educational from your end
1. His tank is low level and only has few skills for aggro. It will get better as he increases in level
2. He has lots of choices of classes/jobs but each class/job is really only meant to be played 1 way. You have a "rotation" or "priority list" (call it what you will) of abilities and there's no real variation. To be effective you need to use you skills properly, even when you don't like the skills.
3. There are other tank classes he can try.
Not every game is going to appeal to every person and the same is true for FF14. If he doesn't want to continue playing FF14, tell him you'll need to cancel the subscription to save money and then invest that time and money into something else you can do as a couple.