This is why having a good FC / group of friends is important. Requirements won't be nearly as unrealistic and you'll have a group equal as you that is willing to trial and error and learn together.
You can also form your own group and go from there, there will always be people out there that want to progress but are less outgoing / less motivated to form a group with the same goals as you their selves, and are more content to sit there hours on end either queing for DF or doing nothing while waiting for that shout group that sounds reasonable for once.
