The desperation is too real
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The desperation is too real
You make it sound as if men who play as women character are such a big threat…
To me this thread just seem to be about men afraid of flirting with 'fake' females and afraid that doing this would suddenly change their sexuality or how people see them. /shudders
Please do stay away from any female character because you seem like the exact creepy reason why some women players have to roll a male character to enjoy their game. Other players are not here to be appealing to you. People will roll the gender that they want and no amount of disrespect from you to them will ever change that.
It's 2015, get real, there is no 'normal'.
Don't think voice chat will save you. I know a guy that wanted to edate a girl (flirt and give her a bunch of in items/money), but he insisted on verifying her gender first. She didn't have a microphone, but they both lived in Australia, so she agreed to call him. They had a chat and everything checked out, so commence desperation.
After "she" was satisfied with all she milked him for, the person revealed they were actually a guy and had his sister chat on the phone to make it seem real. Laughed, dumped the guy, and that was the end of it. The guy who got duped then went around as a female character acting lewd to scam other desperate guys out of items.. So.. He was no better.
To those saying it does matter: do you want to know who's really a girl so you can be "nicer"? IMO, that makes you a terrible person. I don't go cruising MMOs for relationships. If it happens, okay, but gender doesn't matter for friendship - personality does.
Gender is unimportant in this game. It's not a dating service or a hookup site. I don't care whether people think I'm a man or a woman - ANY conclusion they jump to puts them at a disadvantage, as it means they'll assume stereotypes that probably aren't true. My character is a woman, but not even that really matters all that much since my character isn't looking for a hookup either.
The safest thing to assume about another person online is that they are a human being. This will almost certainly be true, and will prevent you from jumping to any of a number of dangerous conclusions.
If you consider in-game marriage to be intimate enough that you actually care about the gender of the person who's controlling the character that your character is marrying, I recommend you get to know the person behind the character well over a period of several weeks before tying the knot. Voice chat with them frequently to reduce the chance that they'll use a stand-in to try to fool you.
I have known people who HAVE successfully formed a relationship with folks they met in an online game, but these results are not typical and should not be expected. If you approach an MMO and its marriage system as a means to pick up chicks, you're setting yourself up for abuse and disappointment! Of course, this might not matter to you - people play the lottery, after all. People do win the lottery; it could be ME! People find their dream girl in an MMO; it could be ME! Nevertheless, you have been warned!