Also to add my 2 cents: I feel you OP. Having leveled tank myself though, I can say it's not entirely their fault. Lots of DPS and Healers force that sort of mentality on tanks early (pulling more mobs without asking. Blaming them when they can't compensate or if they dont know how to get them off the party yet).
Personally, I never enter a dungeon/raid without tank/healer FC team anymore. We know each other, we know what we can handle. And if we get a pissy DPS it's no sweat lol.
