Originally Posted by
Alisa180
Sure, we talk things out with Ascians, and they inform us what we already know: That they need to kill countless people and wreak cataclysmic (literally) havoc in order to initiate the Rejoining. We have been given literally no reason to believe their eventual goal is anything less. Or that there is any other way to achieve what they want. So the people you fight for are likely going to be dead anyway.
And Minfilia isn't dead. I'm fairly sure of this. She's just become part of Hydaelyn for the time being, because the Mothercrystal is now so weak that she can't even communicate with us properly. There some strong hints, notably Tataru's dialogue, that Minfilia will eventually be released from service. It's also stated that Minfilia more or less chose this path. After all, it's been shown that she's deeply spiritual and highly devoted to the Mothercrystal. Most people like that will very willingly give themselves up to help their deity, especially if the life of the latter depended on it. Doubly so if they are not actually dying. Hm, I'm not really articulating my point well here...