Yes a person who like you say is working, sleeps normal, goes to college, uses the restroom?, showers?, eats food?, exercises, and raises a family has no time for FFXI. I do six of those things and still have ample time to play the game as much as I want and can still have the freedom to walk outside whenever I please.
Again no one is making anyone do any event. If the game gets to busy for you, put the game down, or play when you can and make the most of it.
