I only read the first few pages - but want to share that my experiences. Maybe only the ones that had bad experiences are posting? I don't think it's all that bad.

Everything I've done the first time solo queueing in DF I watch CS and no one had a problem. Now that I've things on farm, it's not like I have a problem waiting for first timers in CM/Prat or explaining fights to new players in AK.

Yes, I've been in CM with someone complaining about CS. "Watch in inn" - they said. At least a couple people will speak up and say don't worry watch the cutscenes.

Yes I've been in hopeless AK groups. But overall I've found much more pleasant players than jerks. If I don't DF I shout. When I shout for members I ask for people to "Know fights or at least be willing to learn". Never had a problem with anyone answering my call be it experts or first timers.

And of course I can't re-emphasize enough what's already said in this thread and many places about finding a like-minded shell/FC.