I guess i'm lucky, my server, Cactuar, has it's share of a** hats who feel "elite." but it's a fairly small group. I've been farming CM for weeks now, and i'm full darklight and relic weapon, but my FC is completely against douchebaggery, and we find quite a few ppl who are the same. as far as speed runs go, if you're in duty finder, and they try to force you into a speed run, tell them to enjoy being a man down for most of it. enjoy your cutscenes, because they are yours. /shout in revenent's toll is where people who want successful speed runs, get their people. the ones in duty finder, are there because they cant put a group together.

give it time, the clowns will burn themselves out, move onto the next step, or their mom's wont pay their subscription. if you're Free Companyless, check the servers forums page for FC's recruiting and see what they're looking for and transfer when that is available. you never know, maybe one is recruiting on your server as well.