I've had a generally positive experience. It's more like 65/35 for me. Really it's just veterans and elitists that frustrate me. That said, I wouldn't really call the populace of the NA/EU FFXIV:ARR a community as it's not exactly established yet. I think we'll see the real community once the free trial has ended as a lot of players tend to become tense and short-tempered once free trial periods near their end.

As far as I can tell, the community hasn't really matured or developed yet as the FCs are still their own individual communities. I think after 2-3 months from now, we will definitely get an idea as to the true nature of this community, especially since the hooplah and emotions of launch will be a complete thing of the past.