Right, but the combination of you not being equally geared with the fact that you are trying to take on two roles in a single encounter is just going to lead to problems. If you create a scenario that you are basing an argument off of, of course I'm going to consider all variables. If you become over-geared, this problem probably goes away, see what I mean?
RE: Pissing contest - I agree, there is no reason to argue that point further.