I really think that this is a problem with negative bias more than anything else.

For example, I just PUGed Chimera yesterday and it took us 6 tries. The composition was not too great: 2 warriors, 1 paladin, 2 white mages, 1 black mage, 1 summoner, and 1 monk. We were all new except the paladin I believe. Some people had problems with lag. When we wiped, we just joked around a bit and took breaks when we needed to. Everyone had some suggestions. We made progress and completed it eventually.

From the forums, you would think that this would just be impossible.

I feel what we really need to do is just be patient and honest when we're doing runs. If it doesn't work out, just try again: try to figure out the problem. Excuse people for making mistakes.

In the real world, you often can't afford to be nice (or honest). This is why I play this game. It's fantasy XD