Gathering could use a boost since they nerfed nodes from 6 to 4. But, your issues are purely player based.

Fate spams: Don't have to spam them and group up with others when you do, better xp!

Dungeon Queues: Buddy up with a WHM or a Tank for faster queue times!

Players not following strategies: Player's fault, not the game.. Not like that hest was important anyways.

Fate (not getting cures): Get into a fate party.

Sorry that you take back a lot of what you said during beta as I see most of the issues you have are with what players are doing and not the game is doing. People will behave how they want and this will continue, if you have an issue with how the players are handling the content then I'm afraid you may not last too long in any MMO. Hope it gets better for you and happy adventuring!