Quote Originally Posted by AnkoYaoi View Post
So, I joined this Castrum party for a speedrun. We finished it, pretty quickly actually. Now even before Castrum I noticed something about the SMN Job/Class: They aren't very good with taking down adds ASAP like people desire.

Now, after the dungeon some said "Good job" and w/e. A player commented to that and said "All except *My character*", I replied, "What did I do? Wrong that is?" I wanted to know so that I could honestly, better myself if I did do something wrong (This isn't the main topic about this thread but if you are going to say someone isn't good to their face, give them constructive criticism so that they can learn what they did wrong and work on it). Then I was given a childish 12 year old reply, "Nothin' just messin with you."

So, after awhile the tank leaves having no interest in the runs anymore, and the party started searching for a new one. A party member found a Tank available but only if they could bring their friend (Mind you, the party was full until the tank left). Now, knowing what was said before and what I knew about the adds vs SMN, I came to the conclusion of volunteering to leave to make room (Don't stay somewhere where people don't want you around right?). Now this is the part that gets me. I was honestly not that surprised about getting kicked but flabbergasted at the fact that before I was kicked, no one said anything. It was like I was a piece of trash that they just threw away after they found something new and shiny. Let me put it simple: No one, and I mean no one, should be treated like they are nothing. A quick, "Sorry, thanks for running with us." from the Leader is not too much to ask for... Or is it nowadays?

Anyone else have a similar experience? If so you can share it and we can laugh together.

EDIT: Just found out the party leader was looking for a minimum of DL pieces... Lols... It's funny, I thought Castrum was thr\e right place to farm tomes for AF gear'd people. :P
I know the feeling.
Back in a previous MMO I played, I was in a hardcore raiding group. I was your standard typical DPS but I played my role well and I got along with all the higher ups of the guild, on good terms with the leader who would show me how to play my class better when I under performed and stuff. I even had a lot of them added on Facebook and when I wasn't even playing the game I'd still pop into Teamspeak to chat with them. Then, one day during a simple group run, on Teamspeak one of them said something about my mom, kind of one of those "your mom" things or something to that effect.

I wouldn't have minded as much, despite how personally this would have effected me due to what's happened in my life, I let that specifically slip, because I doubt he would have known what I've gone through in life. Though, I asked him again to clarify what he said, because I didn't quite get what he said. He responded, "You heard me", it was at that point that I was insulted. This person had the courage to say things but then buckled up when confronted. I then decided to drop guild after letting the only guild officer online know what happened.

Despite being in their first raid group, despite being great friends with them and being one of the most well known in the guild, they didn't even bat an eyelid and my departure.
It's heartbreaking, knowing that your contribution means naught. I then spent a lot of the game since that point alone, I couldn't set foot in a raid or dungeon because I didn't have anyone to do it with, so I ended up stopped playing.

I don't really know what I could say in positivity, but, I suppose just keep at it, keep trying until you meet good people, befriend those ones, add them to your friends list or linkshell and chat with them. Don't just add people and then only contact them when you want to run with them. Be social. When you run with people who appreciate you, your efforts then you'll have a better experience and you'll perform better.