My last FC actually told me to pug until I had learned to pass the content because I wasn't experienced enough to run with them.

I've watched the party finder, always looking for groups like you've described but they always want experienced people that have cleared it.
To be honest though, I've only seen very small numbers to begin with so this again feels like another lottery.

I have massive patience when it comes to the actual fights. I don't "leave" or get upset or really even care if there is a wipe. When there is one I think "did I play a part in causing that", "could I have prevented it" and "what could I have done better". I'm the guy that usually votes no to abandon because I know my odds are better of us getting it than they are of starting over with the next group.

I've started looking for linkshells and I've been watching party finder... Any other way you can think of to find a good static group?