i have relic bow+ darklight, and i was in an all relic party this morning farming Praetorium... In the boss fights i would start with lots of dps, using buffs and flaming arrow + other dots... then when flaming arrow wore, i would lose my #2 aggro spot to someone. By the end of the fight if i kept my rotation solid and Bloodletter was resetting well, i would end up 4-5 on the aggro list.

That was in a place where i barely used Rain of Death to debuff the mobs (something i didnt notice reading this thread)

In Titan fight, with ballad up after heart phase, and strategically debuffing Titan's stomps with Rain of Death... I would end up low on the list (tough to keep TP up). But the atk debuff on the boss makes the healers job's easier so i dont mind.

I think the game if pretty well balanced, to be honest. In 1.0, people thought monk sucked when game came out, then by 1.23 you needed to be BLM-> switch to MNK to get in Aurum Vale speedruns, for the sick MNK dmg at the end fight.