Well, as a fellow PS3 player, I would recommend getting yourself a keyboard immediately. It makes a huge difference.
Other than that, I've found it's best to start the group by saying "Hi" or something during the opening animations. It'll often let you know who's paying attention and is willing to communicate. Then I ask if anyone has been there before. If not, I let them know I'll explain the boss fights. A lot of people feel more comfortable and willing to accept your input knowing that you prior experience in an area they don't(not all will be so accepting). You can then start giving tips on things they can improve based on your higher level experiences dealing with those classes.
Now, tip from healer to healer: I let the tank lead usually too, assuming he knows what he's doing, but as a healer the team depends JUST as much on us as they do him. If he's running off w/o buffs then tell the team to hold still and wait for buffs. A more extreme approach, but still very viable, is honestly to let people who don't listen die due to their own stupidity. When the dog barks too much sometimes it's necessary to let the bark collar teach him. Personally, it kills me to do that as a healer so my fingers spasm themselves into healing mode, but it's been necessary at times.
Also, I would recommend leveling THM up to lvl 26 for swiftcast(once a minute you can cast a spell instantly). I won't say it's required, because it's up to you how you play, but it is a game changer. It can turn ANY bad situation into a guaranteed win if used appropriately by the healer or any other caster. With some stubborn teams it can be useful to have swiftcast+Protect or Stoneskin at the beginning of battle so they can't run off w/o the buffs.
Edit: Nailkita beat me to it, but absolutely right. Don't make it sound like a command. Ask questions that will lead into a helping suggestion.