First Dungeon run on Sch and I got some questions!

[CasualLobster]

The fairy really doesn't generate a lot of hate when it's left to its own devices. As a rule of thumb, if the fairy takes aggro (and keeps it) your tank isn't doing his job properly. As far as working in your DoTs, that depends on the dungeon, the tank, and what you feel comfortable doing. Most parties won't complain if you just heal. If Adloquium crits, I usually take the time to DoT + Spread. I also like using Stoneskin + Adlo. at the start of the fight (before the pull) to give me time to DoT + Spread at the start of the pull. Sometimes the trash hits hard enough that you might want to cut out a DoT and just do two of them, that's fine. Like I said, do what you feel comfortable doing.

EDIT: In regards to microing the fairy, I haven't seen a need yet (I'm only 40 though). You will need to micro the level 40 buff from Selene, since it auto casts the spell speed one, and ignores the skill speed one all together. From what I've read, Obey doesn't work properly. It's supposed to spam it's first skill in Obey, but the faeries supposedly just do nothing, so you'd have to fully micro it. Steady isn't really something you use either, since issuing any command breaks steady and swaps it to sic.

The main things you'll want to have readily available (from my experience) for the pets are just Move and Follow. Pets take 80% reduced damage from AoE (1000 needles hits the pets for 200 w/ just the pet as a target), but instant kill effects like doom will still kill them, so you'll want to be able to control the faeries movement when needed. Follow is just needed for resetting the movement after you manually move it.