Comes down to timing, I buff during fight(excluding NM) right at beginning, you got a skill that will help recuce hate if its a problem. Rank 26 archer skill Chameleon. (may of spelled wrong) If you still have hate issues with the skills you listed it is not your fault. Your tanks are lacking skills. First off do your tanks provoke/war drum pull? If so they are generating hate on nothing. Any pull in game that is a taunt will be ineffective, you must first claim a mob for you to generate hate. Now if they already got this down they just are bad tanks(Not trying to be mean to your friends) cause you got all the traits you need and if you still pull hate constantly then its their own fault. Now buff wise, ya just got to time them, I know the feeling, party never waits for buffs and is annoying as heck so most the time you got to use it during a fight. Just time them right and that will solve your hate issues. Or you can do what some Con/Thm do and go VIT build for now(174) and have 1.4-1.7k hp with right gear. Those are just a few solutions.