Well, it was actually Everquest Warriors that trivialized tanking (AFK corner tanking anyone?)

The issues that I'm having, shouldn't even be an issue. I'll use HM Ifrit as an example. I (A warrior) pull with with tomahawk, shortly after tomahawk hits a WMG with regen me. I lose hate, so I provoke / flash. Nope not enough to pull it back, still only at a solid yellow triangle for hate.

Ok, sure you can toss some blame on the healer regening me as I pull before I have him positioned, but how on earth is provoke not throwing me on top?