Comparing RL and video game logic really just means you don't understand what you're talking about. As Rydin said, killing one IRL is alot harder to explain than in a video game.

Aside from that. Comparing games doesn't make sense either. Games don't typically start that way, but the community of MMO players has shifted a bit and it's need to adapt. Honestly it's better starting your own groups anyway, as sitting and complaining you wait for hours and don't get accepted seems like you're lazy to put in effort, and complain you get no results. It's counter-intuitive.