To be honest, it's the lesser evil to have people wait a min or so, than it is to ruin someones first-time experience. The argument about who's right and wrong on the matter works both ways, thus is pointless. Either be a jerk or be patient, it's the individuals call. If either side wants to avoid problematic people, make some friends and run it with them. Problem solved, unless you're socially inept... in an MMORPG.