Nah it's ok, like I said it seems like you're doing the right thing but there will always be hard times, especially with THM/BLM. I had a wanderers palace run yesterday which I've tanked a lot over the past few days, but with 2 BLM. No matter how hard I tried there were times where I would lose hate. The other party members were really great and never said anything about it, I just explained it was hard to keep them on me and they understood, and it never took me that long to get hate back. There will always be players who take pleasure from insulting tanks and healers, best thing to do is ignore them. As I said in another post on here, being a tank is about taking hate from players as well as mobs.