I understand that, and agree. I myself have gotten upset and when I finally do get in-game, I let loose the juice and a string of profanities in my FC/LS chats. People are perfectly entitled to being upset on this issue. What I don't like seeing is the persistent complaints of being unable to login to the game after hours on end of attempting to log in. People who are tired, grumpy, have family etc. wouldn't typically attempt to login to the game after being faced with these errors. It's those who apparently do continue to attempt to login but see no results and then form a complaint which erks me, because it is next to impossible.
Logic: If I get the same errors as you, as everyone, and yet be able to log in after persistent attempts, then perhaps you are not being persistent enough and being an attention-seeker.
I must be one lucky son of a bitch to be able to get in constantly after being dced, peak hours times, moving classes and buildings, all from early launch to now. I'm sure Lady Luck can't favour me that much.
I myself recently experienced the 90k boot out of the server due to instances. Typically, I also realised rebooting the game whenever the NA/EU servers don't appear over and over til they DO appear normally fixes the issue for me, so when they don't appear, I merely restart the client. However, I understand your pain and respect your views.
My methods involve clicking Start, my service account, my character, OK and the occasionally Exit button. I'm sure it's not different from anyone elses.