Actually I almost never have a problem with DPS taking my aggro... what's KILLING me is the friggen healers. FAR too much WoW mentality to be anything but aggro whores.

Im down 100 HP, so let's chain spam a 300+ HP heal... It's pretty much at this point Im bashing my face into the keyboard and crying myself to sleep.

Healers - Take it from an experienced tank... if your pulling aggro... it's NOT your tank's fault. It's yours. Your overhealing by such a ridiculous amount no amount of threat generation in the entire FFXIV universe is going to get it back.

If the poo hits the rotating blades.. then sure, go nuts on the healing, and hope for the best. But in FFXIV.. keeping the tank at 100% hp the entire fight is NOT needed. This isn't WoW where the tank can do it half asleep by pressing 1 button. It's work, and your making it harder on everyone by getting spam heal happy.