3.) Let me be the second to say that this is something as a player that I DO NOT WANT having experienced it in other games. I don't want to reiterate all the reasons that these systems are horrid in terms of what they do to a server community; there are already one or two threads dedicated to the subject.
I agree with this, Cross-server parties have been nothing but a complete mess on other games. There is no reaso nto think that on this game, it will be any different.

Yes, it is an easy option to grab a quick party. However, at what point does this game advertise itself as being quick? Not only that, but joining a random party at a click of a button promotes player laziness. In time, this will trickle to other aspects of the game, eg: "oh im not hitting level cap quick enough......." or "hey, i want that sword, bow, spear etc WITHOUT having to do XYZ"

you see where i am going with this.

By all means, adjust the party finder system (although personally the only issue I have with it, is that people are not using it), OR, promote a way for players to speak with each other. Idea off the top of my head: partys made up of members of 3 linkshells or more means no durrability lost durring that party formation, inc death.

I would rather have something like that, than a cross server match-making option.

Kimiko x

ps: yes, I have got a bee in my bonnet about this lol