Quote Originally Posted by Reika View Post
Depends on what the monsters do. Most healers are just flat out scared to stand close, but if the monster doesnt do anything that will hit me or get others hit if it has target aoe attacks, then I will stand very close to the monster.

You just gotta know your monsters. There are even those fights where it is detrimental to stand far.
It just takes time, experience and (yes unfortunately) sometimes dying to learn what is best for your play style and class. Hopefully you party up with friends, linkshell or Company members who are understanding of your plight.