I get where you're coming from OP, but that's just the nature of the beast and it comes with the territory of playing MMOs. There is one time and one time only that literally everyone will be trying to play your game at the same time, and taking time off of work to do it, and that's at launch. All these problems usually resolve themselves in a week.

To your play style, there are starting to be more and more single player games that heavily incorporate MMO elements if those are more your thing, but there are also a whole lot of people who love to play solo in MMOs and enjoy the challenges presented in doing so. You just have to find what does it for you, and not every game will have that.