While I agree with some of your points and disagree with others, none of these are issues, let alone issues that are "way bigger" than server stability. It sounds as if this is just not the game you were expecting it to be, but you can't beg ARR to be whatever game you wanted anymore than you can beg Mario Kart to be Need for Speed. If you don't like the fundamental design concepts, the game may just be a let down for you. We've all bought plenty of games that didn't deliver what we expected. That's just how it goes sometimes.

Personally, I'm having a great time in game. It's certainly better than the 4 months I spent in 1.0 (2 months at launch, another 2 in 2012). I suspect that most of the people who are really enjoying the game are busy playing it rather than hanging out on the forums though. Unfortunately, I'm stuck at work or I'd be there with them.