So I tried something new.

I decided for a Second time to re-installed windows 7 and drivers.

Clean slate-

I installed all updates first Minus my video card.

I decided not to download firefox yet, I used IE to download the FFXIV client.

I right clicked the install and put it on administrator something new happened direct9x popped up and installed.

After that was done, I right clicked the FFXIV desktop icon and also put that in run administrator which downloaded the update.

After I installed my video card using my cd with my first update-

The game runs actually better than before and I haven't crashed, so far so good, I know a lot of you might not wanna do this but I was at me wits end and decided to just do it had windows old to gain back all my old stuff so if you don't wanna rely on SE try that.