I want to like my character again and look forward to playing with people that are still around after a year or 5 years.
With all due respect, xp loss had NOTHING to do with the community on XI. I say this as someone who has been (and still is) playing XI since it first hit NA, and never have I heard a single person speak fondly of xp loss. Not one "man I love deleveling." In fact, it has been one of the greatest bitches about the game. Simply put, you're looking in the wrong place.