permanent packet loss while playing

[Nyten]

I have really good internet and never had issues playing any other game, but in ffxiv only I consistently have had terrible packet loss. It seems like the amount of lag I get scales with the amount of players, and occult crescent has been depressing with my ping reaching 20000. I've had really bad cases around 3 months ago having to cut the raid day early because it's unplayable, but nowadays it's just a constant annoyance giving me a delay on everything I do and preventing me from using optimal rotations (I can't double weave :/)

I've tried pretty much everything I could find online from users and support and the only thing that seems to work is a vpn, but I've yet to find a server that both has acceptable ping and skips the bad nodes, and I don't wanna have to subscribe to an additional thing just to play the game.

ISP is orange (france)
Issue occurs on both Chaos and Light DC

[Vynnloritho]

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Wired or WIFI connection?
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[Nyten]

mostly wired, same thing on wireless connection
have had a couple disconnections in the past but not recently
lag intensifies with player density/how many actions are happening from and other players nearby.
I only use one character
happens without a VPN, not much testing with a VPN so far
especially bad lag in packed areas/instances, can be anywhere in the game
orange in france
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I said I have packet loss, but I never get disconnects. It's technically playable, and what I see other players/enemies do is pretty accurate to the truth, but pressing abilities is very laggy which feels bad and only becomes a bigger issue as I try to get into harder content.
At first I thought I just had absurdly high ping in this game for no reason (2000-14000 in packed areas) but I do not feel that much of a delay, and a tracert to neolobby06.ffxiv.com (chaos) confirmed that my ping was very low (<10-35), but a few nodes were dropping packets consistently. Another test I ran showed me that I had 100% packet loss to the ffxiv servers but I can't remember the command for that one.