Personally, being that you've tried so much already, the next thing that I would do would be to move everything from one of your SSDs (F: looks to have the least on it) into a temporary folder on either another SSD or onto H:. Do a fresh Windows install on that drive. Install only Windows updates, necessary drivers, and FFXIV. Test. If THAT crashes, THEN you seriously look at hardware and I'd probably start with making sure the PSU wattage is enough and is consistent (I don't think PSU was ever even mentioned in this thread), as well as removing the soundcard and any additional drives to test without them. Or playing around with more underclocking/volting.
Although, there are a few simple things to try - some of which you might've already tried and some you might not have. I would personally exhaust them for the sake of brevity even if some might be grasping at straws. Not in any particular order - numbered for legibility, scored with *:
1. *****
Check Windows Event Viewer when crashes occur to see if there are any errors in Windows Logs > Application (and System) like actually faulting .dlls.
2. *****
Physically unplug the second monitor and see if crashing persists with only one monitor plugged in.
If it does crash, crap.
If it doesn't - Try setting both monitors to the same refresh rate. Try setting both monitors to the same resolution. Try disabling Gsync if you're using it, especially if only one monitor supports it.
3. *
Try setting your Windows Power Plan to High Performance.
4. **
Try switching to/from FSR and DLSS in game. Try FSR 100%.
Try using the Nvidia App to force latest DLSS and use DLAA for FFXIV.
5. *
Try disabling (or enabling, but that should be default) Hardware Accelerated GPU Scheduling in Settings > System > Display > Graphics Settings
6. ***
In - Settings > System > Sound
Advanced - More Sound Settings
Right click and disable anything using NVIDIA High Definition Audio in both the 'Playback' and 'Recording' tabs.
7. **
In Nvidia Control Panel - Display > Adjust Desktop Size and Position
Set 'Perform Scaling On:' to GPU and checkmark Override scaling set by games and programs. For one or both monitors.
8. *
In Nvidia Control Panel - Display > Change Resolution - '3. Apply the following settings.'
Try a lower color depth.