Play a cute girl character.

I'm not even joking.

I play exactly the same on my miqo'te boy and my au ra girl alt, and she gets commendations way more often.

Now I do agree that my au ra is adorable, but damn, c'mon, I like my catboy too!

I started playing this game on the same day my husband started playing it. He made a miqo'te girl and I made a miqo'te boy (we didn't plan this at all, that's just what we came out of the character creator with and went "cool, let's go") and despite playing together for almost the same amount of time, he has at least twice as many commendations on his miqo'te girl than I have on my boy. The comms rarely have much to do with gameplay.